Empathetic Listening vs Problem Solving

Hi @Wintersweet

Empathetic listening is certainly the foundation of counselling.

Advice giving can make a person dependent on the advisor, and the advice may not suit the person.

Better to empower the person by listening and helping them work through the problem themselves. They are the experts in their own life. They will feel heard, and be more invested in any strategies they come up with.

In the words of Rachel Naomi Remen: "Helping, fixing, and serving represent three different ways of seeing life. When you help, you see life as weak. when you fix, you see life as broken. When you serve, you see life as whole. Fixing and helping may be the work of the ego, and service the work of the soul".

I'm so sorry to bother you here on this very important thread

But I don't seem able to post anywhere else

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Just jumping into this thread uninvited so that I can access you all @Taali

BTW I love the quote, @Radder

Very poignant @Taali

Beautiful

Thank you @Wintersweet

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@Taali the other thread @MissGremlin started up recently the catch up is no longer available to me either

Looks like I'm responsible.

I posted a picture of myself and my sisters as CHILDREN which apparently is a No No and caused it to shut-down completely.

So sorry @SmilingGecko

You cant post pics that could identify yourself @Taali but its not responsible for shutting down the thread. Its happened to a few other people myself included with bugs in the system. Dont worry its not your fault! They will just take pictures down thats all and send you an e-mail mentioning that it went against guidelines

Yep I got the email

I understand the need for moderation

I just didn't realise that a 40 year old photo would be a problem...

Anyway the new thread seems to be working now

I think I tagged you in

I do so again to be sure @SmilingGecko

@Taali hello lovely how are you? Looks like the IT is playing up. I’m relieved yku can lost here. It’s ok to lost where you can. I’m sorry I left forums yesterday. When I get this unwell it makes it hard. But I’m trying to engage. How did you go with bathroom?

It’s a nightmare the new site but it also may be me