jellCasual Contributor
So sad, Adult son not treating me right.
Hi all, am new here. Just looking for any advice or inputs? There is a lot of info, so I will try to summarize and be brief. Sorry, it is a lot of info and I'm really sorry and I appreciate anyone who takes time out of their day to read this. I'm a 50 year old female. Am happily married with a 13 year old daughter with my husband. I have a 31 year old son from my first marriage. We have been estranged for quite some time, over 5 years. We were estranged because his then girlfriend didn't like me and told him to cut contact with me, which he did. Just recently, a few months ago, he made contact and said he was no longer with that girl anymore and wanted to reconnect, or more specifically, he needed a place to stay. I was happy we reconnected but a bit wary still as he hasn't always treated me with love and kindness. My husband and I have a very small 2 bedroom home. My daughter had one room, we had the other. I let my son take my daughters room and my daughter slept in my room. My husband in the lounge room on a fold out bed. I told my son to help out with rent. He agreed on 150 for the room. Our rental is 400 per week. At one point, I said to my son that he can stop paying rent all together for a few months as I wanted to give him a chance to get back on his feet. He said thanks. I recently asked him to start paying again, this time I said just pay 80. Again, me trying to be kind. He said ok. He started paying 80. We are on tank water, I asked him to contribute to water and other expenses from time to time. He said that's fine. He recently got a new girlfriend, she's about an hour away. He went to stay at hers for about a week and a half. he didn't pay me any rent, I asked him if he still wants the room. He said yes, but I wasn't there, so I don't have to pay anything. Like what?? We don't get the room, my daughters stuff is scattered all around the place and he won't pay because he wasn't there? And no money for the water either which he agreed to pay. He also has my old car which I sold him for very cheap, but he still hasn't gotten the car in his name yet despite us asking him to do on multiple occasions. He even tells us he speeds and is high while driving. Am I the bad person here? What have I done to deserve this treatment? His response was 'it's not that deep ma'. Like wtaf? I am at a loss. His response was also, well I let my step dad ( my husband) sleep in my room, ( for a few days while recovering from shoulder surgery) . which is actually OUR BED AND OUR FURNITURE that we graciously let my son use. My husband and I really feel we are being used. And it's a horrible feeling. I have no idea what to do. I'm just sitting in bed typing this mess while my son doesn't call or text or anything. Never calls his little sister to check in. It's beyond hurtful and heartbreaking. If you are still reading this, and have made it this far, thank you.
