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saucyemuCasual Contributor
Hey guys I’ve never been one to try this but I’ve reached a point where none of the therapy I’ve done has got me past or to a point where I was at least okay but I’ve realised now I took the wrong approach to therapy I was trying to solve the wrong problem and now I’ve discovered what I need to do. I found that I’ve lost all support in the meantime, and I’m now trying to heal alone which feels impossible
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JynxModerator
Hiya @saucyemu welcome to the forums! Glad to have you with us.
It's so great that you have found a more effective approach to therapy, it can definitely be satisfying when things click. I can imagine it does feel very challenging to find yourself with little to no support to help you on this next leg of your journey, so I'm glad you've found this space. This community is very validating and encouraging in my experience, I hope you find some lovely new connections here.
Feel free to pop into our Social Spaces to find some discussions that all are welcome to join. We often have Coffee & Chat threads over the weekends, usually run by our lovely @Shaz51, so keep an eye out.
I saw in another thread you have a late diagnosis of ADHD and possibly Autism. We have a few threads you might like - for ADHD, and for AuDHD 😉
If you need a bit of help finding your way around, you can check out our How-to Guide.
I hope you find what you're looking for in this space!
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EternalFlowerSenior Contributor
hey @saucyemu hello @Jynx
A book recommendation in case useful? https://publishing.hardiegrant.com/en-au/books/late-bloomer-by-clem-bastow/9781743796009\
i'm also healing alone
it is very difficult, and i also lost a lot of support and was left in my worst nightmare.
maybe therapy failed you, rather than you it? just my feeling but there ar a lot of poor therapists out there. The right fit it very precious. I've had a fair share of duds. One even yelled at me! I hope you are doing ok
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saucyemuCasual Contributor
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saucyemuCasual Contributor
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Mr_BeSenior Contributor
It's not easy being alone. I can't remember a time in my life where I didn't feel it. Never felt I had any support even when surrounded by people, always had to handle everything on my own, couldn't ever bring myself to trust anyone, everyone always leaves eventually. Apparently those thought patterns don't help much at all.
It's tough sometimes. Goals and routines help, but they never really fill the void of loneliness. The best thing I've found so far is introspection and reflection in solitude. That and hobbies. Taking that me time for myself, because I need it. Because people are just too much sometimes. I used to play video games alot, but lately I just take walks and think about things. Sometimes I get in my head and overthink, but "this too shall pass", and clarity comes through eventually.
What purpose do you live to serve? Where is the meaning in your life?
Good luck, just keep swimming.
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saucyemuCasual Contributor
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Mr_BeSenior Contributor
I understand that. I've been there.
What do you do when you dwell? Do you just sit in a chair until bedtime or do you maybe put some tv on? If so, what do you like to watch? If not tv, what DO you do?
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saucyemuCasual Contributor
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