soulSenior Contributor
BPD and violence - helping after you leave?
After several attempts, I have finally left my partner. Over the past three years I have endured many incidences of emotional and physical violence; the latter of which saw him imprisoned on two occasions.
I have just begun seeing a psychologist to help me deal with the trauma of abuse, sadness, guilt and shame I am feeling. There are still strong attachments as although there were truly awful times, we did share the most amazing experiences together. We have maintained communication but that at times has had to be limited to email when he becomes anxious and gets on the defensive.
I had become very much isolated from family and friends during the relationship and would rather no one know what has been happening. I know that I cannot be in an intimate relationship with him anymore. We were living overseas and I am now back in Australia.
I am torn between cutting off all contact and trying to help him as he now claims he will be seeking long term professional help. He believes that once he is "better" there will be a future for us again. I am wondering what is the best course of action for the mental health for the both of us?
