Sharing information

Hey Eleos

A warm welcome and thanks for sharing your experiences with the community!

Sounds like you have gone through a challenging time lately, opening up in the hopes of getting support and being met with options to end your contract instead : (

It takes courage to share your experiences with the community, and you are being really brave reaching out to your peers for support, particularly so after your most recent time of reaching out to the employer, so thank you for trusting the community and trying again to support for yourself.

I'm sure that the community will have some insights to share with you soon!

Take care

Hey @Eleos

Thank you so much for opening up and sharing this with the community. I am so sorry to hear about your experience with your employer; that sounds incredibly disheartening. It is a profound shock to reach out for support during a vulnerable moment, like a hypomanic episode, only to be met with a cold professional ultimatum rather than the empathy you expected and deserved 💚

The need to be understood is something so many of us feel deeply here. When we share prolifically, it's often because we are searching for a safe place to land. It's important to remember that their reaction reflects their lack of an inclusive culture, not your worth or capability as an employee.

To answer your question about sharing without it being a sacrifice, many people find that selective discourse is a helpful tool. This can look like sharing the need rather than the narrative, meaning, as in a professional setting, focusing on the adjustments you need rather than the full history of the episode. It can look like saving the full, raw story for spaces like this one, or for friends and family who have earned that level of trust and intimacy. It can also look like giving a small piece of information first and seeing how the person handles it before sharing everything.

Try to be gentle with yourself today. When anxiety or the crush of that rejection feels heavy, sometimes just focusing on small, sensory comforts, like the sound of rain or a quiet walk, can help ground you 💚

Hi@Eleos,

sorry to hear that you have had an unfortunate experience with your employer. We are a supportive

bunch on here, there is no room for stigma or discriminating against others. Sometimes it's better that

someone shows their true colours earlier than later, it can save you a lot of heartbreak down the track.

See it as a blessing in disguise.

Even though it may not seem like it right now.

It is better to establish rapport with someone first and ask yourself these questions. Do they seem like a

supportive person, can you trust them?

How do they respond in general to other people's problems? Are they compassionate, dismissive or

don't seem to care. That will give you a clue as to whether they can be trusted when you tell them

personal information.