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Social Media and Healing

Social Media and Healing

Hey everyone, and welcome to my TED talk lol

I feel I just need to vent about his a little bit.

Social media sucks. There’s a lot of well documented stuff about how people on instagram post pictures of perfect lives and people compare, which does a lot of harm.

My main pet peeve is with privacy.
I once had a friend come to me and say his mic was listening to him cause he’d spoken about a product and the product showed up in advertisements soon after.

The thing is, your phone microphone doesn’t listen to you. It doesn’t need to. There are probably thousands of other data points that it can use instead. The gyroscope, the rate at which you tap, purchase history, searches, etc… All of which cross referenced and used to track just about anything about a person. These are all aspects of data collection that are probably not widely understood or discussed. I was once told that “If you’re not paying for the product, you are the product.” That’s basically the entire business model of every social media company on the planet. These companies harvest the data of everyday people and sell it. Something I find violating, especially considering that the “consent” is given through Terms and Conditions screens that are engineered to get you to agree quickly and without actually reading.

The Privacy Act in Australia is almost comically outdated at this point too (it was made in 1988 before the internet even existed.)

Privacy isn’t just a privilege for keeping secrets. The Hawthorne effect is the easiest example to give for how this can affect people who are trying to heal. People act differently when under observation, even if it’s passive observation. Healing is messy. It’s inconsistent. It requires time and space and the chance to not have an audience while you figure stuff out.

It is excruciatingly frustrating to me that the majority of Silicon Valley is taking advantage of everyday people at their expense.

Does anyone else share this view?

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Hey @SpicyMemories,

Welcome 😊 glad you decided to share this as your first post.

I really relate to what you’re saying, especially the part about how “healing is messy” and how hard it is to feel like there’s always some kind of audience. That can make it harder to just be yourself and figure things out at your own pace.

The privacy side of social media worries me too. Even if people don’t always know the technical details, that sense of being watched or tracked can feel pretty uncomfortable and intrusive.

You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way, thanks for putting it into words so clearly.

Would be interested to hear how others here manage their relationship with social media as well. I hope you have a great day!

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@SpicyMemories I'm going to keep this short because you are spot on and I could start a whole substack account on this topic to go along with you Ted talk.

For mine, I hate that anything I said yesterday has to be true today. When people drag up things people said years ago it disgusts me.

"My commitment is to truth, not to consistence." Mahatma Gandhi

I'm off all platforms now. But before that I would leave a post up for 24hrs then delete it.

Check Michel Foucault's concept of the digital panopticon.

https://open.substack.com/pub/philosopheasy/p/michel-foucaults-digital-panopticon?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email

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You've sure got a lot of followers to your TED talk @SpicyMemories !

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How are you today @SpicyMemories @i8myego ?

How have things been going for you in life?

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Hello @tyme

Thanks for the message. I did what I needed to do here and then moved on. I popped on now just to say hello to you and the others I felt a connection to in my short visit.

I'm doing really well, not much has changed but I'm growing. I like to think of myself as a container full to the brim with marbles. Every time I emerge from a troubling period I do so with the same amount of marbles but with a bigger container. Same issue's with better capacity. I hope you are well

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Hey @i8myego ,

I love that analogy in that you feel you have more capacity to handle what's been going on for you. That's the main thing - we can't control what happens, but we can change how we respond.

We're here for you. You're not doing this alone.

What have you beenn doing to stay busy?

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@tyme

Thank you. I feel it.

It's nice to be able to emote in anonymity

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@i8myego wrote:

@tyme

Thank you. I feel it.

It's nice to be able to emote in anonymity


I agree. There's a level of safety in it. @i8myego

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