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The skeletons in my closet

QueenieSenior Contributor15 Mar 2017, 9:15 pm AEDT

The skeletons in my closet

My gf (soon to be non-legal wife) has asked that there be no secrets between us, no matter how painful they are. She wanted me to bring up my biggest darkest secrets and tell her. Some of this stuff I've had well hidden because of the trauma that exists connected to it. I've never even told a psychiatrist or psychologist, nobody. I told her my biggest secret, now, tonight, I am living with the trauma revisited. It has left me feeling very low indeed.

The skeletons have been let out of my closet.

Q 😞

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor15 Mar 2017, 10:10 pm AEDT

Re: The skeletons in my closet

@Queenie

Maybe over time you will be able to share little bits, but its great that she is interested and gives you support and space around it.

I hope you can take this pic as permission to take them out of closet and put them back when YOU need.

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utopiaSenior Contributor15 Mar 2017, 10:17 pm AEDT

Re: The skeletons in my closet

@Queenie - that's only 3 months away. Not really very long at all.

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QueenieSenior Contributor15 Mar 2017, 10:23 pm AEDT

Re: The skeletons in my closet

Thanks @Appleblossom. It is interesting about the skeletons in the closet, as I drew a bunch of bony skeletons dancing around an open closet door about a month ago as part of art therapy whilst in hospital. Maybe it was a sign?

@utopia no it isn't far away and I haven't even looked at what to wear yet lol

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utopiaSenior Contributor15 Mar 2017, 10:53 pm AEDT

Re: The skeletons in my closet

You will have to start thinking of an outfit soon @Queenie. Do you know what your partner will be wearing? Do you want to coordinate your colours?

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Unknown userMember16 Mar 2017, 3:39 pm AEDT

Re: The skeletons in my closet

@Queenie This may sound glib but it isn't intended that way. This is such a big step it may, in the long run, prove to be very cathartic and indeed result in strengthening your relationship. Probably best to let her know you very much need further revelations at your pace. Which you probably already have done anyway. Take it easy and don't push it, it will happen naturally. Very brave I must say. Good on you. Very difficult reaching into the uncomfortable zones.

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