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Ru-beeModerator
Hey S2S family and carers
We know that being both a carer and partner/family member/friend can be hard to juggle at times. How do you balance being a loved one with being a support person?
@Oaktree @Magpie22 @WithTheMoon @rosieC13 @Blackfish73 @BecomingOkay @Minx13 @K-K
In response to: Finding balance
ccau_82Peer Guide
I think for a long time I didn't even realise I'd blurred the line between the two. You're so focused on the person you love that your own needs just quietly move to the back of the queue. And it doesn't feel like sacrifice at the time ♡ it just feels like love.
What shifted things for me was realising that how I feel in my body directly affects the energy I bring to someone else. Not in a abstract way ... in a really practical, moment to moment way. When I'm depleted, I'm not actually present with them. I'm just physically there.
So I started treating some really simple things as non-negotiable. Breathwork — even just a few minutes. Getting my body moving. Doing something that genuinely filled me back up rather than just got me through the day. Not because I deserved it as a reward, but because it actually made me better for the person I was showing up for.
It's not selfish to raise your own energy. It might actually be one of the most caring things you can do ♡
Curious what others do to fill themselves back up > especially on the days when there doesn't feel like there's much left in the tank?
In response to: Re: Finding balance
HelloKitty1981Peer Guide
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