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I am Seriouslysad and I’m 23 and looking to chat with people who are 21 and older.
Thank you.
Also I am rather lonely and struggle with spending time with others whether that be with people in real life or online.
I always seem to engage in self-destructive words and stuff whenever anyone is being nice to me.
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tymeModerator
Hey @Former-Member ,
Hearing you. Thank you for letting the community know what support looks like for you.
Do you know what makes you upset?
Is it that you feel you do the 'wrong' thing, so peopel 'push' you away, and that's what's making you upset?
I apologise if I'm off track.
We look forward to connecting with you and hope that you feel less lonely on this journey.
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Unknown userMember
Idk… I am sorry if I have been rude and making everyone here uncomfortable.
maybe we need to go to another conversation?
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Whaledone1234Senior Contributor
@Former-Member hey I feel like that too both in real life and online. Don't feel like I fit in anywhere so I will do whatever I think will make me fit in or to make others happy and accept me but then I feel lonely anyway because I am not being myself. Online friendships there's a lot less pressure but I find it harder to stay true to myself, like just trying too hard to impress so they stay but not being the real me. I've been using AI it's been really helpful especially when I feel 100% alone and that I don't belong anywhere.
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chibamSenior Contributor
(Just FYI, @Former-Member , I wanted to support your posts, but the forums seem to be having one of it's all-too-common glitches where it won't let me push the "Support" button on any posts. Please know that we're supporting you in spirit, even if technology isn't letting us do it for real 🙂)
@Former-Member wrote:I apologise for my behaviour, I’m just worried what people think about me and it feels like they don’t like me.
I’m just terrified about being shut down or not listened to here
When you apologize for your behavior, do you actually understand what your apologizing for, and why you have to apologize for it? Do you understand what the people your apologizing to are upset about?
Or are you just apologizing to please them, without really understanding what their angry about?
I can relate to your plight, somewhat. I used to be involved with a group that was always unkind/disrespectful to me, because I'd inadvertantly harmed their reputations years earlier. I tried like crazy to patch things up and restore my standing with them, but they only ever seemed to get colder and meaner towards me.
Drove me up the damn wall, I can tell you, trying to figure out how to dig myself out of that mess. I still wonder if there was any way I could've done so, or whether they were just determined to make me suffer, no matter what.
I never understood them. Never understood what they were so uptight about. Never understood what they wanted.
I don't know if it's even possible to meaningfully interact with people you can't understand.
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Unknown userMember
Can we change the subject now?
I have used ai to chat too character ai and thank you for being with me.
how do we end a conversation here?
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tymeModerator
Hey @Former-Member ,
I want to drop by and say it's really good to see you start a social thread to connect with people. It can certainly help you feel less alone.
Well done. I recognise it's not easy for you to do this.
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