Schizophrenia - support for when a family member resists

Hi @April20 ! Welcome to the forums! 🙂👋

Perhaps he's "resistant to help", as you say, because he's desperate not to relive his previous bad experiance in the psych ward? I'm guessing that the first time it happened, it didn't just happen suddenly? Like, he went down a road of 'seeking help', that ultimately lead to somebody deciding to commit him?

If that's the case, then it's easy to see how he mightn't want to even take the initial steps down that road again.

I was never committed myself, but I have a similar aversion to 'seeking help', because I know from experiance where that road can lead, and it's an ugly place.

Do you think it might help to ask him if there's anything you could do for him, that isn't in the vein of trying to set him up with traditional help services?

You mentioned he lost his job. Do you know what sort of job he would like to have? And if so, is there any way you could make some arrangements to get him a job similiar to what he's hoping for?

Thank you so much for the response. We spoke with him today and offered lots of support - reiterating how we want to see the best version of him, etc but he says he is fine and doesn't want help. I really appreciate your ideas, thank you for sharing. I just worry that he is really unwell and even after speaking with the Triage team, they did say he has had a relapse and if we don't do anything, it will just get worse - but we also can't do anything if he doesn't agree to it...really tricky!

Hello @April20 .

I get how hard it is

I'm sorry none of the SANE staff have replied to welcome you.

I'll tag @Shaz51 a volunteer community guide to invite you into the family and carers space.

Take care of yourself - you need support too.

hello @April20

sending you hugs and sitting with you my friend

support for when a family member resists is very hard and I am sending you lots of understanding hugs as my husband has MI issues and has thrown all his meds out

then he did not sleep at all

got him to see a doctor who gave him ne meds which he has now cut in half by himself and has cancelled all other help

it is hard for caring family members to see this

and we need to look after ourselves too

this is a link to click on to called Coping Toolbox ( what is in yours to help you cope )

@Dimity , @chibam , @Determined , @Jynx , @tyme , @AuntGlow , @PeppiPatty

Hi @April20 ,

How are things going for you today?

Sorry @Dimity that it looked like SANE staff had not said hello to @April20 . We were in contact via email numerous times. But thank you for jumping in to welcome @April20 too. This is what commmunity is about.

We need to you @Dimity - thanks for everything.

Hi @April20,

ANy luck with finding supports for your loved one?