Adult kids wont leave mother alone

You chose this when I was In and out of Mental Health wards but you only cared about yourself, you chose it when you threatened custody of my kid after I had him...

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Hello @Suzie1963, and welcome to the forums.

I'm very glad that you have found this forum and that you've felt able to post and I do hope that you will feel the support of the community during this time.

Thanks for sharing your experiences with the community! I can hear you have been through a lot in the past, both with your battle with cancer and challenges with your health and also in some of your relationships with your adult children. It sounds like you have made an important decision to prioritize your health which can be so hard to do when you are facing a number of different challenges right now.

I'm sure that the community will have some insights to share with you soon!

Take care

@Suzie1963 It might be a bit easier to understand if you elaborate a bit more with what's been happening.

From what you wrote it sounds like you're having a pretty rough trot.

If it was me I'd write to each of my children. Let them know how you're feeling but try doing it without blame. Something like "Your stealing from me hurts as I don't feel respected. I've also worked hard to afford to buy xyz". Letting them know that you'd like a good relationship moving forward and to start a new chapter with them could help.

If your relationships with your children are quite toxic and aren't going to change, it is healthier to say goodbye or limit interaction. Letting them know what you're doing but will have an open door if they're up for healing the relationship and building a good strong foundation.

Focusing on you and your health is very important. Stress and dis-ease aren't good for your health and cancer recovery. Being able to resolve your issues with your children, even if it's saying goodbye for a while until you can have healthy relationships with them should help. Would they be open to family counselling?

I hope that you're able to find something that helps you and them to move forward with peace

I have and my daughter wrote back and saud that i tried to take her baby off of her when he was born which of course is lie ...my house is not equipped to have little kids any more and it will never have either ...no im afraid when she called me a flat out liar that done that for m plus its complicated

I have done that my son text me on fb where i had him BLOCKED but forgot about messenger cause i hardly use it ..he said HOWS THERAPY and responded fine and finished with .and he then intern told his youngest sister who mafe the allegations more like lied ...You chose this when I was In and out of suicide wards but you only cared about yourself, you chose it when you threatened custody of my kid after I had him.".. and every time we took her to see a therapist for her she wouldnt show up for said appointments ...she would skip school for days on end and those app for her to see someone about her suicide attempts she ran off. She would turn up after the appointment time when it was too late...then She would say im fine to them again she lied so you see what i was dealing with .