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Alone this xmas but don't let that stop you from enjoying it :)

Surfs-Up-88Contributor20 Dec 2025, 9:34 am AEDT

Alone this xmas but don't let that stop you from enjoying it :)

Hey everyone!

First time chatter here. I was feeling really down this morning thinking about spending Christmas alone again this year. Then I treated myself to a nice breaky which I try not to do much as I'm injured and out of work, but it was an early Xmas pressie. Feeling better now and wanted to share.

Was going to share earlier about being alone but got distracted by hunger.

So I just want to say to everyone in my position it may tempting to make things worse by not doing anything if alone this Xmas; but don't forget to treat yourself a little. In whatever way, even if its just going to your local park and getting some fresh air(which is very hard for me atm injured).

We are all special in our own way and deserve a treat over this period. Big or small.

If it has to be an early xmas pressie all the better. There's magic in being alone in that we get to choose if we get it early or not 😄

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Ru-beeModerator20 Dec 2025, 10:38 am AEDT

Re: Alone this xmas but don't let that stop you from enjoying it :)

Hello @Surfs-Up-88 and welcome to the forums

I'm glad that you've been able to treat yourself to a good breakfast as a bit of an early Christmas present. And I think you make a great point about taking the time to treat yourself especially if you're experiencing loneliness this time of year

I know a few years ago I was alone for Christmas and the only person I saw that day was the delivery driver who brought me my takeaway. I can see now that I would've had a better day if I'd gotten myself out, had some fresh air and just had those little interactions with others that come from getting out in your community.

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Surfs-Up-88Contributor20 Dec 2025, 6:55 pm AEDT

Re: Alone this xmas but don't let that stop you from enjoying it :)

Yeah last year I spent it alone for the first time and was highly depressed. I focused so hard on everything I was missing out on.

I guess we go through things for a reason, so this year I'm going to focus on what I can do to make it the best possible day or week as possible.

I hope my mood doesn't deteriorate much as it gets closer but expecting it may. The main thing is I will do certain things to make it better for myself.

What I might do, I just thought of, is start writing my list on what I want on the day and if I can get any of them goals/pressies for myself it means I got more chance of it being a Xmas I enjoy.

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DahliaDreamsSenior Contributor21 Dec 2025, 10:01 am AEDT

Re: Alone this xmas but don't let that stop you from enjoying it :)

Hello @Surfs-Up-88 and hello to @Ru-bee as well.

@Surfs-Up-88 that sounds like a good idea, to write out a plan for your Xmas day. That is the kind of thing I do too, as I like to get things written down. It seems to help me process things better if I see them in writing.

I don't know your preferences, but I find things like playing my favourite music and lighting a few candles always lift my mood a little if I am alone. If I can schedule a call with a fiend on the phone when I'm feeling alone, that helps too.

If you are up to it, maybe volunteering at a community lunch of some kind?

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