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General chit chat

Hi@Faith-and-Hope, @utopia, @Mazarita

I'm still not very good at 'navagating' this site, maybe that's why I kept trying 'instant' chat sites - they seemed easier. But I like that messages can be checked, that it's not instant feels like some sort of barrier against instant shock I suppose - though I know this is a public Internet site so anyone can use it. I also think, though I hate the term Mental Illness, as I think it takes all the physical out of it, that the people that cause trauma probably suffer from it, so they would have just as much right to use it. But I feel a bit like typing I think, so I thought I might just blurb a little?
I've went away for a few days. I go every month. I visit the center of my Universe 🙂 The one person who has been there with/for me, their whole life & I believe will remain that way until I die 🙂 . . . & quite the large Family they have provided for me to share in 🙂 I go from, it almost seems like another Planet sometimes, my life is very quiet; to the center of my Universe, which includes 5 grand-children ranging in age from almost 2 to, going on 18; then there's the partner, the partners Parents and a large variety of friends 🙂 I often find myself thinking 'alein sound dimension' - there's so much noise on so many different levels! Every single one of them has every gadget known to mankind, and most of those gadgets make noise! And my World is a lot calmer, with a lot less going on - we're usually driving in the car, taking children to school, doing whatever shopping is necessary for the day in time for whatever seemingly endless appointment is due, . . . by the time my alarm goes off to make sure I wake up in time to get tired in time to go to sleep in time 😄 There's no way I could keep that pace up anymore! After a few days I find myself almost running away with my tail between my legs 🙂 But it's the perfect balance really, I do spend a lot of time alone - apart from my 3 furry, four-legged friends; but I am extremely lucky, my bond with my only child is of a strength I can't see breaking; I get a phone call or text every night & welcomed by a dozen open arms and smiling faces every month. I am lucky, I have a good life. Well, I think life is just a word, neither good nor bad. I have good experiences and I am happy 🙂

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Hi @Niqueeta,
I'm sorry to hear there has been a glitch for you. I hope it does turn out to be a small one. I'm not quite sure what you're referencing, but if it's something related to the forums and I can help - please don't hesitate to drop me an email - team@saneforums.org

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Hi Niqua

No - they are not doing this to shake us up - the world does that - always something happening to make it a bit harder - that's life getting in the way

I thought I was spending too much time here but then - for a time I took time out and this meant I had all this time in the day and I felt lost - communicating with other people here makes it feel as if I am talking to people all day long if that's what I choose

So - with one bung knee and aches in my spine getting used to crutches again - wow - first thing when I get us it's brekkie with a hot pack and the computer on my lap to start the day - it feels better doing this than trying to push myself around until I feel better

I do believe it's being in the forum that helps to improve my outlook -

So - if you need the forum - why not - I think it's invaluable to be with other people with some kind of emotional discomfort - after all - what would we be doing with our time if we did not post here?

Housework - feel miserable - bored - lonely - isolated (mine) whatever ever

No harm here hun - you are a valuable member

And I have put some ideas up under "notifications" - see if you can access those

Super-hugs today

Dec

@Former-Member

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HI @Former-Member - it feels really strange not getting any notifications... and kind of isolating.. when there are notifications it means someone has though of us... which is so valuable... Feeling like im probably missing lots of things i shouldnt be but i'm sure the IT Gurus will be able to sort it soon ;D fingers crossed!
Hugs

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Hello Claire !

Now that's not very good of me is it, . . . no need to worry - I'm just having a little hissy fit. I know they're doing everything they can to fix it. I love you too and hope your doing ok with this glitch. I'm good at making mountains out of mole hills. Hope your doing ok with your dot point print outs too. I read your not going to involve the bf as yet - your going to start with family dynamics . . . good start

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Hello NikNik

No need to be sorry, that's probably what I should be {it is what I am}! Please excuse my childish tantrum, I know your all doing everything you can to fix the problem. I guess I worry about bad guys having gotten in, my sanctury of safety being tainted. I'll get over it. I'm sorry your wonderful site's got some bug - I kind of hope it is just a bug? I don't really expect you to see this, I expect your very busy - you just keep doing what your doing 🙂

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Ah my Niqua your entitled to hissy fits! Its very hard without notifications isnt it! Im sure this will be sorted in good time and then everything will be back to normal.
I know abit of your past in regards to stalking so its understandable to make a mountain out of a mole hill about this.
I havent started on my dot points as yet. I cant keep myself together for long enough today. Just got back from a walk. Went for a 15k bike ride earlier today. Am about to start my safety plan as it really needs some updating

What are you up to today Niqua

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Hiya @Former-Member 🙂

Dropping some of this off for you

It feels funny for me today too, and I am sure for many others. I too worry sometimes about being found here, because like you there is good reason for me to and also like you, I value here so much. I trust that this glitch is gremlins or monkeys or nutella, but I can understand why it might feel scary.

It feels quiet here, even though it isn't really. I have notifications set to make a little "knock knock" sound via email, and I have missed hearing it today. Maybe that's why it seems quiet.

Sending you big hugs today

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Hello Dec

It's only a tiny little bit of my brain that has those thoughts, they're pretty much always there . . . under the surface - I guess this little glitch has just brought them to the surface a bit?

I actually think I'm much better with the amount of time I spend here, but this glitch has made me realize just how dependant I am on this site. All my friends are here, if it ended I'd lose them all! I could never find them again, I don't know who they are!

And your right, it makes my life so much better! You and all my friends make my life so much better!!

So sorry about your knee, and an aching spine is cruel - everything is attached to it, every move is felt. I don't have the hot pack (and often not the brekkie) but it's exactly how I start my day too 🙂

I am very isolated too Dec, and the wise ol' owl is right again - I don't suppose I'm hurting anyone needing this site; my feelings just overtake everything and make a terrible mess when I can't get them out. That's what I do with my time when I'm not posting here, wade in the mess.

I love you Dec

Niqua

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Hello Lisajane,

Your right, this site has rescued me from isloation, near unbearable lonliness - almost like physical pain. It is what those notifications mean to me - somebody has thought of me. A link. Not being alone. I'm sure the IT Gurus will find and fix the problem soon too 🙂 Sorry about my hissy fit. Thank you for caring

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Hi @Former-Member 😄 It wasnt a hissy fit it was how you were/are feeling and that is ok i think... hope you're feeling a little less alone than earlier. hugs
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