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General chit chat

Hi@Faith-and-Hope, @utopia, @Mazarita

I'm still not very good at 'navagating' this site, maybe that's why I kept trying 'instant' chat sites - they seemed easier. But I like that messages can be checked, that it's not instant feels like some sort of barrier against instant shock I suppose - though I know this is a public Internet site so anyone can use it. I also think, though I hate the term Mental Illness, as I think it takes all the physical out of it, that the people that cause trauma probably suffer from it, so they would have just as much right to use it. But I feel a bit like typing I think, so I thought I might just blurb a little?
I've went away for a few days. I go every month. I visit the center of my Universe 🙂 The one person who has been there with/for me, their whole life & I believe will remain that way until I die 🙂 . . . & quite the large Family they have provided for me to share in 🙂 I go from, it almost seems like another Planet sometimes, my life is very quiet; to the center of my Universe, which includes 5 grand-children ranging in age from almost 2 to, going on 18; then there's the partner, the partners Parents and a large variety of friends 🙂 I often find myself thinking 'alein sound dimension' - there's so much noise on so many different levels! Every single one of them has every gadget known to mankind, and most of those gadgets make noise! And my World is a lot calmer, with a lot less going on - we're usually driving in the car, taking children to school, doing whatever shopping is necessary for the day in time for whatever seemingly endless appointment is due, . . . by the time my alarm goes off to make sure I wake up in time to get tired in time to go to sleep in time 😄 There's no way I could keep that pace up anymore! After a few days I find myself almost running away with my tail between my legs 🙂 But it's the perfect balance really, I do spend a lot of time alone - apart from my 3 furry, four-legged friends; but I am extremely lucky, my bond with my only child is of a strength I can't see breaking; I get a phone call or text every night & welcomed by a dozen open arms and smiling faces every month. I am lucky, I have a good life. Well, I think life is just a word, neither good nor bad. I have good experiences and I am happy 🙂

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yes @Owlunar unfortuntaley spring and summer doesnt fix everything hey but thats ok. being here helps alot no matter the weather. and yes i definetly remmeber that day too. i dont think i could squeeze hands any tighter -well in my mind anyway- hopefully i didnt break any fingers that day.

at least i can look back and laugh about it now, i couldnt before but i can now.

all the best for you too, i know your going through alot yourself

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I'm okay @outlander - I guess if I had a melt-down it was in private with no one here but the cat - but I think I was pretty strung out for a few days and this has left me very tired and not at all in the mood to get on with anything today

But I know I will -

And what you said about being happy - you are so right - no one can be happy all the time and I think it's one of the issues in the world that people have it drummed into them that they are supposed to be and accepting this will not be the case is pretty great - very mature -

I even had trouble trying to convince a therapist that I thought I didn't have to be happy all the time - I was told I didn't have to be unhappy all the time - that astounded me - I didn't say that - we can be happy and unhappy at different times in the same day - aw - I had to think about that one for a long time

You can laugh about the pap-smear scare now but since you have actually confronted many issues - one thing about your life - it is never dull - however unpleasant - no doubt you would prefer a little "dull life" now and again but you are certainly not boring

Not to me - not here - anyway

Dec

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Hello my beautiful Wise ol' owl @Owlunar

Thank-you for your care and understanding I wanted to write to you a while ago, about how do you do the tough love thing? I can't seem to do it. I have gotten into $22,000 debt with my child and I think I am terrified that they will not honor the payments, but more of the dissappointment from the most important person in my Universe, devasting me.

I think the weather may affect the brain a gerat deal. You say Winter is over, but the Earth doesn't know seasons, that's a man-made thing. We've had heat waves this Winter, and the tempertauer changes here from day to day - sweating one day, shivering the next! I thin it's more the sudden changes that affect me personally.

I've just got a call from the bank, I have to go in and sign more stuff. I don't really feel up to it, but then it will be done.

Love to you Dec

I hope this explains a little for you Claire

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@Owlunar

I dont think your cat minds. Dont worry about meltdowns. We all have them from time to time.

Its tricky with mh. You cant be happy all the time and this is the same for normal people too. Ive never heard if someone who is always happy. Everyone has their own battles. Some more than others but they are battles none the less.

The scare for that isnt over yet. I have to wait till next year to find out if i need to be refferred to a specialist ir if the virus is gone. Fingers crossed its gone.

Hmm dull life. A doona day would do without people in the house i mean.
And thanks your not boring to me either ❤❤

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@Former-Member
I cant help with the mothering bit im sorry but i can be here for you. Im sure they will upkeep their payments other wise might have to implement tough love. I hope you dont have to do that though ❤❤ very understandable worry though as its not a small amount.

Good luck at the bank we are right there holding your hand too ❤

The weather is pretty shocking. Its been ok for us where we are but i agree the constant and sudden and unpredictable weather patterns dont really help at all

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anyone feel like having a bit of a chit chat today

@lapses@Zoe7@utopia@Sans911@outlander@Bimby2@Faith-and-Hope@soul@Queenie@Shaz51@TAB@Neelix@BambiFawn@Dec@Bella3@Niqueeta1@CheerBear@Maggie@lapses@greenpea

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Hello @Bubbles3

I have to get going now, but I noticed your tags didn't tag properly.

@Former-Member

@Zoe7

@utopia

@Sans911

@outlander

@Bimby2

@Faith-and-Hope

@soul

@Queenie

@Shaz51

@TAB

@Neelix

@BambiFawn

@Owlunar

@Former-Member

@CheerBear

@Maggie

@Former-Member

@Bunniekins

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thanks @Former-Member

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Good day to you @Former-Member - hope you
have a good day out. Best wishes. Bimby2.

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why didnt my tags go thought properly @Former-Member

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