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I feel numb don't know what to do

MedicinalGypsySenior Contributor

I feel numb don't know what to do

My girlfriend

Ive been renting a room for 5 months everything seems to be against her constantly something is breaking not working she's been fighting to see her grandchildren to no avail will have to go to court its tipped her over 💔

TW: suicide attempt

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She sent me a text yesterday before she wanted to end her life 😭😭😭😭 [edited by moderator] Im nervous wreck just leaving a domestic violence relationship. She's here today, thank god. This morning she was ok I offered to do some reiki on her this week yes she agreed then hour later she was screaming she hates her life she screaming she hates me for not letting her die yesterday the Yelling and name calling went on for hour

I locked myself in my room

Finally she left the house 😭😭😭

Im numb i don't know what to do 😭

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rav3nSenior Contributor

Re: I feel numb don't know what to do

hey @MedicinalGypsy

that must've been really scary and heartbreaking to hear from her, i'm so sorry that this has happened. i can see that you've been dealing with so much too, leaving a DV relationship must've been tough and i imagine this situation would've made it more overwhelming and exhausting. i know you care about her a lot, and that was really lovely of you to offer her support and the reiki session. it sounds like she might've been projecting her own pain onto you, but that doesn't mean you deserve the mistreatment either.

do you have anyone else you can lean on (whether it's a therapist, friend, etc)? you deserve to feel supported and heard too.

i'm also going to share some support links here:

let us know if there's anything we can do to support you, we're here for you 💙

p.s. wanted to let you know that we've slightly edited your post and added a spoiler tag and TW (this is in line with our 'limit detailed descriptions guideline') so that members aren't triggered by the heavier content/descriptions. if you have any questions about this, feel free to reach out.

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MedicinalGypsySenior Contributor

Re: I feel numb don't know what to do

Thank you
I needed to let this out, im waiting to start recovery programme ive been accepted @rav3n

I know she projecting weve been friends 25 years, I am physically and mentally emotionally am at my limit i tore muscle in rib 2 weeks ago nursing this my husband was my carer my brain doesn't work properly when this much stress and abuse 😭 i want to call my mum but shes not doing well Alzimhers and she crashed her car on Saturday

Little lost

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rav3nSenior Contributor

Re: I feel numb don't know what to do

it so understandable that you'd feel burnt out @MedicinalGypsy i wish i had a magic wand to take all your worries away. what i can do, is remind you that we're here for you. i'm glad you could come here and get some of that weight off your shoulders.

i do encourage you to give Beyond Blue or 1800RESPECT a call/text, perhaps the counsellors can offer some suggestions too.

are there any self-care/self-soothing practices you can work on at the moment? what usually helps you feel more relaxed?

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MedicinalGypsySenior Contributor

Re: I feel numb don't know what to do

@rav3n ive been colouring in and listening to high vibrational music 🎶 tapping and Havening exercises, I have anxiety about her returning home, i already locked in my room hopefully I fall asleep

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MedicinalGypsySenior Contributor

Re: I feel numb don't know what to do

@rav3n i have phone phobia i had a women harassing and bullying via text for 18months struggling to answer calls I watch them ring text frightened to open

I never had issues with phones before but she was sending threats demanding Ransom $ to let us remove our sea container it eas storage had to take her to court after we had it back in our possession she started harassing texts again she threatened me last July and then I got new number police wouldn't help me

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rav3nSenior Contributor

Re: I feel numb don't know what to do

colouring in and listening to music sound like great tools, music is a big one for me too @MedicinalGypsy

i'm so sorry to hear about the bullying and phone incident that happened to you! that's awful, and it makes total sense why you'd feel that way around calls/texts. totally okay if you're not ready to give those helplines a call just yet - i'm glad you've kept yourself safe in your room and worked on those self-soothing tools. i have my fingers crossed that you're able to rest up 💙

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MedicinalGypsySenior Contributor

Re: I feel numb don't know what to do

@rav3n thank you

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rav3nSenior Contributor

Re: I feel numb don't know what to do

hey @MedicinalGypsy wanted to pop in to see how you're holding up? 💙

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