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A SOS to any green thumbs out there
I have always found gardening to be therapeutic and it has given me great joy. However, after a major crisis with Mr Darcy's health I have not had been able to get back into it. Have other gardeners suffered from a similar hiatus and how have you recovered and got going again?
Darcy
PS have a spot that needs filling any recommendations for a 1m high cool climate white flower plant?
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SmcSenior Contributor
@Appleblossom, I've got a selected few roses in the garden, and also bits of it set aside as habitat (back boundary near the creek that runs behind our place). Doesn't need to be one or the other. 🙂
I guess I've never seen roses as a middle class thing. My family was more working class, but we and lots of our garden-keen family friends had roses. A couple of friends who were farmers had a beautiful big flower garden including lots of roses around their farmhouse with a good fence keeping the sheep in their rightful place. They've now semi-retired into town, and still have lots of roses.
Mum and Dad were really seriously keen gardeners. They got catalogues in from various specialist nurseries and were friends with specialist gardeners. So the ones in Mum's garden include some popular roses, and some unusual and interesting species. She's got a "Reine des Violettes", which is an old 1860s variety, and which I want to get a growing piece of. I've got another old one that Mum gave me growing here- "Anais Segales", an 1830s pouffy pink rose that's flowering like mad at the moment, then won't flower again until next spring.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@Smc It sounds really lovely as a country thing. I really like that you have both.
I grew up in mostly earth challenged environments. There was one country orphanage, but a lot of boarding houses and flats etc. SO I also did not have much know how ... when I got married.
A fellow who chatted up all the ladies, was a keen gardener, delivered lots of cut flowers from his own garden to my doorstep and eventually I succumbed to the flowers tho not to the man ... he is a good friend tho ... its a post 45 yo thing ...
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AdgeSenior Contributor
I have Lamarque rose, which is an 1830's (very old) Climbing Noisette Rose.
It's my only surviving Heritage (Old World) rose.
I used to have lots of different Heritage roses (especially Rugosa roses). They all died eventually, & I haven't replaced them.
Adge
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
They both have very dense petal clusters.
@Adge
@Smc
Thanks for helping me through my rose thing.
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SmcSenior Contributor
Glad to be of service @Appleblossom. 🙂
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Home from holidays and on the way back we stopped and picked up some Mexican orange blossom (Philadelpus Mexicanus) and plumbago (Plumbago 'Royal Cape') plants. Not fancy but solid performers which if they thrive will continue to form the basis of our garden leaving a few spots for some more special plants.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
appleblossom rosebud geranium ---- @Appleblossom 
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Unknown userMember
@Appleblossom carpet rose
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
Thank you
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SmcSenior Contributor
Ooooh it's so cold outside- seriously, it's late summer, why does it feel like winter???
But I dashed outside for long enough to plant four capsicums and a viola in a spot that I got ready for them several days ago, but between being out doing other things and rain, hadn't gotten to doing it yet.
I built it up with a whole lot of chook bedding and bunny poo, so hope they'll grow well. 🙂 The chook bedding is a mixture of straw, chopped up shrub prunings, and turf that I've dug up from a place where it's not growing well and not wanted anyway. My chook girl gets all excited when she sees me coming with a bucketful of it, because she gets to forage for worms and any other critters hiding in it.
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