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A SOS to any green thumbs out there
I have always found gardening to be therapeutic and it has given me great joy. However, after a major crisis with Mr Darcy's health I have not had been able to get back into it. Have other gardeners suffered from a similar hiatus and how have you recovered and got going again?
Darcy
PS have a spot that needs filling any recommendations for a 1m high cool climate white flower plant?
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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SmcSenior Contributor
@outlander, a hint with seedling punnets- the biggest plants are not always the best ones. Sometimes they've been in the punnet for too long, and the roots have gotten crowded and tangled. If you've got a choice between punnets with tiny plants/medium plants/tall plants, go for the medium ones. The tiny ones may be too little and not have the root system they need to survive.
Also, if possible, don't buy punnets which have plants already in flower. They look enticing, but once a plant starts flowering, it's chemistry switches into "flower, set seed, die". Most seedling flowers only have a one year life cycle, so the plants are genetically programmed to produce the next generation. If you get plants that aren't flowering yet, they'll be better at putting roots out into their new home. The "instant colour" pots that nurseries sell are really only good if you need to fill out a garden in a hurry, and for a short time. Within a few weeks, they're past their best.
If you can, hold off on planting until you get a couple of cooler days. Being summer that may not be possible, so if not, then keep the pot shaded for the first 2-3 days, and don't let it dry out. The soil should be about as wet as a damp facewasher. Totally soggy and waterlogged isn't good. Light watering twice a day (until the water just starts to come out of the drainage holes) will be good for getting them started, after that once every day or two should be right, unless it's heatwave weather.
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eudemonismSenior Contributor
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outlanderSenior Contributor
thanks heaps for the tips! @Smc thats most helpful!
@Former-Memberhello, i didnt get a chance to go to big w or bunning today but im hoping to tomorrow possibly after the drs
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eudemonismSenior Contributor
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SmcSenior Contributor
@Former-Member and @eudemonism, here too. It's one of the classic depression symptoms- losing the enjoyment of things you have liked doing in the past. I think it's worth putting up a fight to get the joy back.
Today, I've been fighting for it with some sunflower seedlings, a few sprouting potatoes, a melon plant and some bean seeds. All a bit later in the season than they should be, but hoping not too late. Have given them all a dose of well broken down chook bedding and water to speed them on their way.
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eudemonismSenior Contributor
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hello @eudemonism @Former-Member @Smc @outlander @Adge
have followed your posts...
yes having techno stuff in the main area of our living to me is not therapeutic or calming or whatever the latest buzz words are,,
at the end of the day if we look upon life at the very basic element.. move forward fom there. to where you are now @eudemonism where would you like to be where you feel most at peace? ocean? forest? desert..iceberg? where?
do not limit your hope because of your diagnosis,...
please understand I want the best for you......never ever give up..
your eternal friend moh
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