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A SOS to any green thumbs out there
I have always found gardening to be therapeutic and it has given me great joy. However, after a major crisis with Mr Darcy's health I have not had been able to get back into it. Have other gardeners suffered from a similar hiatus and how have you recovered and got going again?
Darcy
PS have a spot that needs filling any recommendations for a 1m high cool climate white flower plant?
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AdgeSenior Contributor
When I first started planting (17 years ago) - to establish my garden (front & back):
I had to plant over 100 plants (over 10 years or so), with only less than 1/4 surviving to establish.
It was bare infertile sand, with virtually nothing already there.
The main set-back was passers-by (people) deliberately smashing up my shrubs & small trees (front & verge).
They kept smashing & breaking them, until the plants died.
I cannot understand how people can be so willingly destructive, especially when it's not their property (trespass) - & they have no reason to be there at all.
Adge
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
i will keep on keeping on my @Adge , @Former-Member , @Appleblossom 
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Unknown userMember
I can't wait to start being able to plant at our place @Adge, still taking out undesirable plants. There a fair few bulbs that I will transplant at the appropriate time and I am making a mental list of the plants I would like to put in.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
i will be putting in mrshaz`s favouite plants and mine @Former-Member , @Adge 
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Unknown userMember
Did you see the garden they did up on 'The Living Room' @Shaz51? I really liked the potting up area and I think we may have a spot here that might be just the spot for a potting bench (similar but different) 😀.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
what a good idea @Former-Member
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AdgeSenior Contributor
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AdgeSenior Contributor
Gardeners know the best dirt.
So many seeds -- so little time.
Old Gardeners never die, they just go to seed.
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@Shaz51
@Former-Member You might have a point.
I love that you said you can never have enough plants @Adge
tho I dont agree. I will fully support your right to say it. I wonder if I should start a new hobby when I run out of soil and there is only concrete around ...
An old friend said his lawyer wife does just the same as me ... the earth just bursting with plants ... so I am not the only one ... phew!
@Adge
and your story about planting and coming from horti ... background and all that ...
Shocking that people wreck stuff. I have found that too.
All I knew was the difference between a rose and a geranium.
Then it was field trips
NOW I am older I have planted and lost plants that I cannot even remember the names of. Learning about gardens and nature has always been more important to me than having a nice garden .... or boasting about Latin names ....
Owning fancy real estate seems a false value to me. Did not save my little brother. He had 9 houses in inner Sydney, but he still died too young,
Yes all gardens evolve
even the ones in well established areas ... where the hedge may be trimmed to look like a boxing glove
True story
North Road Brighton
Wooops Sane Forum Mods
I never go there these days!
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SmcSenior Contributor
"I wonder if I should start a new hobby when I run out of soil and there is only concrete around ..."
Sigh... dear girl @Appleblossom, that's what pots are for!
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