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A SOS to any green thumbs out there
I have always found gardening to be therapeutic and it has given me great joy. However, after a major crisis with Mr Darcy's health I have not had been able to get back into it. Have other gardeners suffered from a similar hiatus and how have you recovered and got going again?
Darcy
PS have a spot that needs filling any recommendations for a 1m high cool climate white flower plant?
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
@Smc I miss the ability to burn my unwanted green waste. Especially as our council charges absurd amounts for green waste dumping then mulches it and sells the byproduct.
Bonus of burning where we were was the resultant ash was great for top dressing and building up the ground. Grass was noticeably greener during dry spells where ash had been spread than areas without.
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SmcSenior Contributor
@Determined, our woodbox ashes get spread around the garden. I used to save them for pottery glaze making, but ended up with too much. Am currently burning the neighbours' walnut tree branches, and walnut makes an excellent glaze, so I'm planning on spreading around the "old" ashes in the kiln shed, and storing up the walnut ash for "whenever" I get back to it.
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Unknown userMember
Pleased with my efforts today, have potted up the bulbs purchased today along with all the plants brought with us from our old garden.
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SmcSenior Contributor
I got a little bit done today. Some weeding, repotted some Asiatic Lillies, potted up a bare rooted crab apple that I'd had heeled in. The spot I want to grow it in isn't ready, and if I plant it without removing a nearby stump followed by proper soil preparation... yeah, I'll regret it later.
Also replanted some self seeded white Chrysanthemums (paludosum, I think) from another garden where some had come up on a path. Not sure if they're all Chrysies, or if some of them will turn out to be carefully relocated weeds. 😛 As long as some are the right ones.
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Unknown userMember
How are you going @Sheila ?
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SheilaSenior Contributor
Hi @Former-Member ,
Im ok thanks. It still gets me down when my son tells me every day how miserable he is. I know exactly why he is, but he wont listen. He is wasting his young life on a toxic "relationship". I try not to give him advise any more as he throws it back at me. All I can do is love him. Which is easier said than done sadly.
My little veggie patch has been a bit neglected lately..I must sort it out on the weekend. The endless sunshine has been lovely, but we really need rain. Thanks for checking on me 😊
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Unknown userMember
It is tough @Sheila .
Loved your orchid analogy in your thankfulness thread @PlantLady .
Picked up a pack of red lilium bulbs and a pack each of red and orange gladioli. Potted these up today and added them to the collection.
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
Hello @Sheila and @PlantLady xxxx
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Shaz51Senior Contributor
my succulents are growing , need to re pot them
one of my customer has succulennts growing in every kind of dish and ornaments you can think of
they look really good == have to do that too
@Former-Member, @Sheila , @Smc , @Determined , @Maggie , @Ppp , @Mrsjones , @Former-Member
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My neighbour recommended a gardener and we have had him come out to deal with some of the noxious plants out the front and already the place is looking heaps better. There are a few bulbs that have come up and it will be interesting to see what species and colours they are.
( @Determined we did not bring your garden tool of choice with us 😀).
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