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A SOS to any green thumbs out there
I have always found gardening to be therapeutic and it has given me great joy. However, after a major crisis with Mr Darcy's health I have not had been able to get back into it. Have other gardeners suffered from a similar hiatus and how have you recovered and got going again?
Darcy
PS have a spot that needs filling any recommendations for a 1m high cool climate white flower plant?
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
I had earmarked 2 ugly looking (my uneducated opinion lol) 'weeds' for removal but darling informed me they were hibiscus and she would rather I not lol. They have recieved a haircut though as they were out of control. And planted way too close to fences and orher shrubs.
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@Determined I do have memories of your "problem solver" chainsaw posted in the early stages of this thread 😀 and can imagine your darling watching on 😵 as you enthusiastically tackle the overgrowth 😀.
Seriously though it is lovely to see reward for effort 🙌.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Any ideas on what this may be?
I am calling weed. Mum and Darling not sure but at least Darling does not mind if I remove it altogether...
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Darling seems pleasantly amused with my sudden interest in gardening @Former-Member
It is good seeing the reward for effort. Last place there was simply too much work and it was always catching up and never any real reward for effort just more work to be done.
I have actually been finding late afternoon watering therapeutic. I used to laugh at people out watering in the afternoon and think what a waste of water lol. 🙂
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Unknown userMember
Waiting on pic @Determined, how tall is the plant?
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
The most amusing part of today was when s3 wanted to help daddy and weeded all of darlings freshly planted pitunias. Mummy was not pleased when she got home from town despite him being pleased with his efforts. So now he is asking daddy before he pulls. So sweet having him out wanting to help despite often being unferfoot and in the way.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
Plant more of a tree @Former-Member, about 3m tall. A lot of branches were hanging over neighbour's gutters and ours sona fair spread also. Timber consistancy similar to that of rubber tree but leaves look nothing like that. Little green nuts (soft) for seeds.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
This is the trunk
So far I have only removed branches that are interfering with buildings and souronding shrubs/ trees.
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Unknown userMember
Second of the two pics through @Determined, looks like an umbrella tree, sold in southern states as an indoor/pergola plant. Would need to see a flower stem to confirm - botanical name is brassaia if you want to google.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
I will have to look at the actual tree again in the morning @Former-Member but thinking the leaves are different to what I thought an umbrella tree is. Mum and dad had one in the front yard when I was growing up. Mum loved (as did us kids as it was great for climbing) dad hated it.
Dad ended up cutting it out one day while mum was in town. 💥🙈🙉🙊
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