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Talking aout LOVE

Talking aout LOVE

Hello Everyone ;'

We ( carers have a good discussion about LOVE in the thread called

Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness

First question coming up, might as well throw in a hard one. Do you find with the ups and downs that tenderness can be a casualty.

Talking about the gentle touches on the arm or hair (not bedroom activity).Still get hugs but miss these other intimate gestures.

I like the comment that we cant love someone back to health (doesn't stop me trying)

My problem is I keep feeling responsible for fixing things.

But I must say that Love has changed my hubby over the years , He has changed over the years

While our circumstances are very different, at the end of the day I think we all want to feel loved.

Even though love cannot cure a mental illness,
it can create an atmosphere of safety where someone has more opportunity to heal and grow. (This of course requires insight).

While we cant fix someone by loving them love creates an environment that enables them to help themselves.

That's all we can try to do ....

What Do you think My Friends

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Thank you @Determined ☺️

That is good news that your wife has improved - encouraging first step. Please keep us informed of her progress and know we are here for you should you need us at any time 🙂

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Sorry to hear about your husband @Former-Member

Hello @Determined, @SGde3a xx

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Hey @Former-Member

I too really appreciated your response. For me supporting the man I love through his illness is not negotiable; to know that expression of appreciation is diminished is particularly helpful (rather than the absence of gratitude).

Will be thinking especially of you over the next few weeks.

Darcy

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Thank you so much @Former-Member

Your husband is one lucky man to have such a loving, wonderful wife as you 🤗

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@Former-Member
Love your ability to state the obvious in such a clear and concise way.
So many times you have expressed what I am thinking or feeling but not known how to put onto words 😊

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No @Former-Member,
I am fortunate to have Mr Darcy. He is kind, friendly and non judgemental. He is tenacious and always gets on with the job where I would have long given up. The strength I have was learned from him. I hold onto hope that he will be able to be at peace with his diagnosis and find full remission from the symptoms of his mental illness and that he will again find joy and meaning in his life.
Darcy

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You are lucky to have each other. My heart goes out to Mr Darcy. How long has he suffered with depression? I do remember at one stage longing for joy and meaning to enter my life once again. It took some years but I had tastes of it and improved a lot.

Never let go of that hope @Former-Member as it's not unrealistic. The love for one another will see you both through

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Hey @Former-Member
Has had problems for 15 years or thereabouts but the last 3 have been particularly challenging with his health deteriorating markedly presenting diagnostic and treatment challenges.
Darcy

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Hello @Former-Member, @Former-Member, @Determined, @SGde3a

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Care giving often calls us to lean into love we didn't know possible. (Tia Walker)
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