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Moving forward (sexual abuse )

Moving forward (sexual abuse )

Hi fellow Sane people
Im really struggling with the disclosure of my sexual abuse and how to move forward.
Yes im safe and all the right steps have been taken etc but im still struggling to move forward
Im wondering what people have done snd strategies you've used in order to get through it?

Does it get easier over time?

Im very embarrassed and ashamed and scared by it and struggling so any help would be great.
It would be great to know if there are any other survivors on here and how you are now and how it affect the way you live

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse )

Hi @BlueBay,

I can hear that this is causing stress for you and that you feel it may not be appropriate to discuss it in hte forums. Talking about it with your psychologist would have been a good thing, but completely understand that during your first session is not the best time to do this.

If you feel you need to speak about this, you can talk to us about it. We are about to close for the day but we will be around again tomorrow from 9am-5pm if you want to come onto chat any any point.

What do you have planned tonight? Perhaps there is something you can do that will help you to cope with this until you get the opportunity to talk about it

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse )

Hi @Former-Member

is there no moderators tonight??

I guess i will have to wait until tomorrow to chat.

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse )

Hi CB
thank you for your response yesterday. I wasnt quite in the state to respond but I can now.

Ive made up a few of those cards. Ive got to get them laminated though. So im trying not to get them wrecked. Ill upload a pic of them for you later.
I made up one for the 5 senses because that sometimes works when my anxiety is high but its not a flashback. One with a breathing technique so when I have panic attacks its a prompt to remember to breath And I made up the one you have as well for the flashbacks.

I am triggered by words, smells, feelings, as well as many other things that I assocate with the events and pretty much life. Life itself almost triggers me because its hard to find something that doesnt trigger me.

And yes please, please tag me into the other thread. Id definently be up for that.

@CheerBear

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse )

@Former-Member what should I do?

I can't go to the authorities, i am too scared. and it will open up a can or worms with my sexual abuse.

this is scary stuff; terrible stuff.

i don't know how to not stop thinking about it

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse )

Hi @BlueBay - sounds pretty awful, if you are in need to chat feel free to reach out to us. We're in the office until 5 today.

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse )

Oh i wish i could get rid of my past childhood sexual abuse.

These memories are triggering so much the past day and it's hurting me so much

Go away, just go away and leave me alone memories just go away 😞

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse )

i know BB.. i know... @BlueBay

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse )

ok @Sans911 here is the other thread

if you want to- no pressure one bit- my story is on page 4 about halfway down

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse )

@outlander I found smell was the strongest sense and someone on here ? @Teej or @Faith-and-Hope ? mentioned to use scent to break me out of a flashback. Keep some essential oil in your handbag ready to whip out when you need it. It helps bring me back to earth.

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Re: Moving forward (sexual abuse )

the actual feeling is the worst for me @Former-Member

ive been trying to ground myself all morning. i realised i cant run from it so im trying to do other things.

so far ive done the house chores, watched a movie, colouring in

@Sans911@Former-Member this is the other thread. my story is on here and i kepe this topic separate to my hospitlal thread. i think its page 4

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