Lonely

Hey @Coco-star ,

I hear you. That sounds really tough, and I’m sorry you’re feeling so low and isolated tonight. Moving around a lot, plus dealing with ADHD/ASD/PTSD on top of that, would make building new connections feel exhausting sometimes. It doesn’t make you a loser at all—it just means the world has thrown you some extra challenges.

You’re not boring either. Even sharing your story here shows you’ve got depth and courage. Interests can come and go, but the fact that you’re reaching out for a bit of chit chat shows you do want connection, and that’s a really important step.

I don’t think you need to “play” like everyone else to be valued—you being you is enough. If you ever want to talk about small things, like what your day’s been like, or even just sit in that parallel space together, I’m happy to listen. You’re not as alone as it feels right now. 💛

Hiya @Coco-star I am sorry to hear you're feeling lonely - that's so valid and I am really glad to see you here and reaching out to connect.

Also, solidarity for the late-diagnosed AuDHD. It can be so wild to finally have this context to explain all our struggles but then it's almost like learning to walk again, having to re-learn how we exist in the world in a way that supports our needs.

Chit-chat is always grand! Did you wanna join our Friday evening chat? Or like, hang out here and talk about, well, whatever you like really hehe. Up to you!

@Coco-star I have been alone since my only friend died sympathies mate

Tagging you @Rhymster for @Coco-star 's post below.

@Coco-star thank you I do enjoy chatting if you want me to be notified press @ then select me

@tyme thank you for that mate

Hey @Coco-star

Firstly, I wanted to thank you for sharing all of this with everyone here. It certainly takes a big amount of strength and courage to reach out when you're feeling so low and alone. And it's already so nice to see community members in here supporting you already!

I want you to know that what you are feeling is completely valid. As someone who is late diagnosed AuDHD (Autism and ADHD), I've certainly had my fair share of struggling to connect with others and maintain friendships; so please know you're not alone in this experience.

I would also like to acknowledge the impact that moving, family rejection and losing friends is having on you. These are very painful and isolating experiences, and understandably would be impacting you.

I am wondering what kinds of interests and hobbies did you use to enjoy? What did you like about them? Sometimes going back to doing the things we used to enjoy, even when we were little kids, can be really helpful and honestly healing. But there's no pressure to do anything, I understand that sometimes our old interests and hobbies just aren't quite what we're feeling and that's so okay!

Hey,

I saw you have moving, family rejection and losing friends, it's hard, have similar.. it's isolating and lonely, add a remote location to live and I feel like a lost kid in a big city. I have things I need to ask, like basic things about heaters and no one to ask. I feel like the void increases, and then things happen which makes the doing of things feel really difficult. I go hours and days without speaking to a soul, or saying the bear minimum. Any gems or pocket advice. Words of wisdom.

Hey there @-wanderour-

It sounds like you're really relating to the loneliness that @Coco-star is also feeling!

Moving can already be a big adjustment on its own, but trying to make sense and cope with a loss of friendship can make that transition infinitely harder. It's not only physically isolating, but it's also emotionally isolating, when it feels like there's no one that you can share every day news with.

You're both certainly not alone, a recent study actually shared that up to 40% of Young Australians feel loneliness 🙁 It can feel grim and sad, but you're both here, and trying to reach out, which is a really important first step to take!

If you're both keen to have a look, there are actually some great suggestions on the Lifeline website that might be worth a look:

• Short term Help for Loneliness
• Long term Help for Loneliness

It's okay to take your time and to do little bits at a time, if it feels like putting yourselves out there can be overwhelming. Ensuring that you feel safe in your interactions is most important after all, so that you can be motivated to keep building social connections around you 🌸

Sending you both some extra kindness!