Not handling meeting new people - why can’t people just be upfront?

hey @Coco-star!

i'm sorry to hear how hard this has been on you. from my understanding, support workers can have pretty intense case loads and sometimes cancelling/rescheduling's tend to happen more. at the same time, if she's aware that her capacity has been met, perhaps she could've been more honest about her limits and encouraged you to find another support worker. i wonder if she's pushing her own limits/capacity to try make time for you due to the connection you both have, but it's unfortunately not holding up on her end?

does she know how much these changes impact you? you deserve to have supports that understand and have the capacity to follow through with appointments. it might be good to talk through your needs with her (i.e. plans being followed through) and see if she can recommend another support worker if she's not able to meet it?

i know when things like this happen, it can be easy for our brains to blame ourselves or think we're the problem. but it doesn't sound like this from my end - you both seem like lovely people. i hope things smooth out soon 💗

Thank you Raven for your comment

i feel so silly for losing it and just wanted to be easy going but I feel like the child in me just had the biggest tantrums hah. It’s been a hard journey.

I have handled it maturely I just don’t know how to process and understand when there isn’t straight forward communication. I think she is a bit the same in the way we over explain ourselves but just need to get to the point of things maybe if it’s going to be a support worker relationship (I think because I’m older too past supporter workers don’t really believe I have autism or pmdd and they don’t think maybe I need help. I mainly just need prompting and connection and body doubling most days. so they think they aren’t doing much maybe?

I used to be a support worker too so I try to be understanding especially with sleep over shifts and burn out.

thank you for chatting to me about it 🌸

Ahhh this is the best response and I also got something out of it to help me.

thank you

nooo it's totally okay to feel upset by it! sudden changes make me frustrated too. i usually need time to mentally prepare for things, and when my plans get changed, i need a moment to feel my feels before i move forward. self-talk's been helpful in overcoming the frustration more quickly for me @Coco-star

it's a tough spot to be in, but i can see that you're trying really hard to be understanding and patient with your support worker. i really hope she does pull through and become more consistent with her scheduled visits.

in the meantime, the forums community is here for you! if you're looking to connect more, i'll leave the link to a few of our social spaces to check out if you'd like, no pressure ofc 💙

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aww i'm so glad 💙 @Coco-star

i can relate to my insecurities making my thoughts spiral and feeling uncertain too, so you're not alone. your partner sounds like a great support for you too! do keep us updated and let us know how things go for you ✨

also i forgot to mention earlier - i removed a medication name from your post, this is just to align with our 'limit detailed descriptions' guideline. you're welcome to talk about meds generally (i.e. ADHD meds, anti-depressant meds, etc) but we just avoid specific names - hope that helps 😊