Exploring feelings of loneliness with human interactions

I have been exploring this feeling of a void within me which I know is coming from a mix of loneliness and anxiety.

I’ve noticed that the feeling, which is intense and scary, expands when I want something (intimacy, support, a level of certainty, respect, reassurance or communication for example) from someone else which I don’t get.

And the thing that seems to help to contract this feeling is sharing, being kind, giving this person something that they need, even if their response is negative or nothing at all, and by not expecting anything in return.

Which is so hard (draining and frustrating) when you feel like your relationships are one sided.

There seems to be two contradictory responses to this.

Either let them go because you deserve to have your needs met, so you have more emotional bandwidth for other people or yourself.

Or accept that this is a one sided thing. and not everything is fair, and you can give and expect nothing in return.

And with the second option there is hope that one day they will wake up and see you. Or that one day I will wake up and have this kind of love and energy from the world.

Have you ever felt like this?

What is your experience with what I’ve described?

Is there another option?

I would love to hear your thoughts x