My mum

@ArraDreaming 

I am glad some of the jigsaw pieces are coming together about your ancestry. Its massive.  

I can relate to experiences of getting records, including my own ward of state files and those of other family members. Each time I read them I felt so many different emotions as I pieced together situations and sequences of what we all went through. Being able to flesh out their narratives and understand has helped me a lot.

take care

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@Appleblossom
I have a box of paperwork in my garage that includes things from my childhood from also being in care I had to request that
it has things about my parents and there capacity to care for us and all these different things
I have dug but only a little bit
I managed to find the connection to aunty in fnq through a name written in ond of mums many “emoji notebooks”
and then i dig around social media to find her

She never talked about herself never told us abou her past she lived a very solo kind of life, just her and Nicki in her last year

Ah @ArraDreaming so we both had that experience of being in care. Yes, the things written in files about us and family can be hard to take. It is great that you have found out which traditional lands your mother is from. It can give you a better sense of who she was. I have found it better to find my own ways of understanding my parents, than the words in the files. It’s good to have a fuller picture of them. 

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I was in and out of my parents care a lot before I was removed a final time it was a cycle they couldnt break  @Appleblossom 

My mum had a lot of litle notebooks, 

I only found these when I cleared her flat out,

She wrote mostly in pictures and in one of the books was this aunty I been talking about she had her name in there 

mum wrote all sorts of things in the books, the date she found out my son was born with a tiny drawing of a baby, lists of things, 12 🥕, some apple stickers… 

💜💜 fascinating puzzle peices to put together 

@ArraDreaming it can be healing, finding out things later in life and choosing how to honour or remember them. yes, some cycles are difficult to change. You have been doing well with your four.

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Cycles are hard to break @Appleblossom ❤️ but I am trying my best, thanks Apple. I am learning every day

I see it with my sister and I want to help her be the best she can be too, and for my nephew 

@ArraDreaming 

I tried hard to support my brother too. It was hard for him. 

Your only sibling @Appleblossom or do you have more 

We sound like we have similar experiences… 

I also have siblings  that were not as lucky as me to rebuild there lives and there is CP involvement both for my little siblings and my nephews 

I tried to help my brothers and my sister but they wouldnr let me 

One day they might look back and realise we tried to help 🍎