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RhymsterSenior Contributor
My Mother left my Father before I was one. Growing up at my grandparents with my Mother. Both her and my grandmother held me guilty of two unforgivable crimes I was male so would grow up to be a man and that I am the spitting image of my father
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OaktreeSenior Contributor
@Rhymster
That sounds tough. Neither of those things are things that you could control. My mum left my dad too and in a lot of ways I look like him. It's not your fault. I wish that we could all grow up without trauma but in a lot of cases that is just not possible. Unfortunately, in the end we have to learn how to deal with our resulting trauma. In my case I am seeing a psychologist.
Welcome to the forums.
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RhymsterSenior Contributor
That is the least of my issues I have seen three psychologists and each gave me a couple of appointments before saying I am not qualified to deal with you bye
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tymeModerator
Have you spoken to a cousellor before? Or a peer? @Rhymster
If psychology is not working for you, there are other therapeutic supports you may want to investigate.
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RhymsterSenior Contributor
Victoms of crime is paying for a specialist counselor
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SugarshackSenior Contributor
Hello mate, I can relate to being told 'i am like my father' and, it was a cruel insult from angry mother to, absent father vs child of father.
I have gotten a lot out of treating abandonment, depression and low self worth through finding ways to form a positive self image inside my mind, and to truly investigate, understand and explore how my mother rejected me so that I could find acceptance in other places. Peace and healing in my own heart. Rejection and sadness still arises, but I know WHY it is there now.
I hope you can find some men you can see as friends or role models, there's heaps of men doing social things like table games for indoor people or sport for outdoor people.
Reparenting and self love can be a very nice way to fill in the gaps of yourself where parents did not love and nurture. And in my saddest days I look into myself and think, YOU never gave up on YOU and YOU turned your life around from 'deleted by parents' into 'a person who turned their life around from horrible to ok'. It is a pretty good feeling and my old feeling inside was "bad kid who deserves a bad life" because thats what my parents indoctrinated into me.
Good luck friend and be kind to yourself every day.
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RhymsterSenior Contributor
G'day mate I have no feelings toward who I am I merely accept who I am
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