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FearofUnknownSenior Contributor
In response to: Grieving
rav3nSenior Contributor
hi again @FearofUnknown!
sibling bonds are so special, and i can imagine that feeling a physical distance in that bond would feel overwhelming. i have a younger sister that i'm close with too but i think i was a bit of the opposite to you. i wanted some space from her to be my own person. we both talk pretty much every single day, but we also are okay if we don't see each other for a couple days.
going from seeing someone everyday face-to-face, to not as much, is a big jump and it's okay to feel uneasy. i see you've mentioned texting everyday but still feeling distant, would you mind sharing what you mean by feeling 'distant'? is there anything in particular that you miss?
in moments i miss my sister but know she's unavailable, i reach out to my other friends instead and catch up with them. if they're busy too, i either journal what i wanted to share with my sis or i do activities that bring me comfort (like watching a movie, working on some crafts, going for a walk, etc).
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FearofUnknownSenior Contributor
I miss going to sleep with my sister the most and I would be lying if I say my sleeping pattern hasn't been affected since she's moved out.
By distant I mean I can't connect with her because she's changed now and I can't keep up.
And thanks for replying @rav3n
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rav3nSenior Contributor
ohh yep, thanks for clarifying that, i see what you mean now. this might sound silly but it's worked for me and a few of my friends - we sleep with a plushie instead. i got a weighted plushie to help with my anxiety but it did help me sleep better too. i've heard there's also 'cuddle pillows' that can help with sleep too. @FearofUnknown
change can be hard and scary, but it's also a natural part of any relationship. have you spoken to your sister about how you feel disconnected?
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FearofUnknownSenior Contributor
I own 2 plushies, a dragon and a jellyfish and they are good at providing me some comfort. I love to hug my dragon a lot more than the jellyfish. Thanks for suggesting it @rav3n . What plushies do you own?
In response to: Re: Grieving
rav3nSenior Contributor
@FearofUnknown aww those sound so lovely!! i've got a bunch of different ones around the house but the main two that sit in my room are my teddy bear and weighted bunny (my fav one). i want to get a sloth one maybe... or dragon, that sounds really cool.
also, if you're interesting in sharing pics of your plushies, feel free to check out this thread too:
Cuddles Corner - Show off your plushie buddies!! - SANE Forums
hope you're doing okay 💙
In response to: Re: Grieving
FearofUnknownSenior Contributor
I noticed you didn't share a photo of your plushies in the other thread. I can't upload a photo of mine due to technical difficulties (photo is over 3mb). Would you mind sharing a photo of them here @rav3n ?
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rav3nSenior Contributor
that's okay, totally understand the tech issues. i don't have pics with me right now but my plushies should be on the thread, they might just be hard to find hehe. i'll link them below!
here's a couple of them: https://saneforums.org/t5/Social-space/Cuddles-Corner-Show-off-your-plushie-buddies/m-p/1626095/highlight/true#M435552
the one with the 'little dude' shirt is the teddy that sits in my room.
and here's a pic of my weighted bunny (my fav one to cuddle): https://saneforums.org/t5/Social-space/Cuddles-Corner-Show-off-your-plushie-buddies/m-p/1692259/highlight/true#M459963
where'd you get your plushies from??
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