Topic Tuesday // Mindfulness and CBT for carers // 21 March, 7 - 9pm AEDT

@Former-Member yes, and again, it comes in line with the concept of 'acceptance.' Accepting at that moment, we are not there quite yet and not to say we won't have the relapse in life. One of a well respected psychologist-Sarah Edelman, on her class, said sometime for one thing to happen, 1000 factors need to be met, we'd love things to be certain way, but often little that we can do, and the only person that can free us from the situation mentally is ourselves.

Can we take mindfulness and CBT too far and overthink everything? I need a break sometimes when I get caught up with reading about MI, looking for answers. Pondering my situation. My head starts hurting.

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@soul wrote:

Acknowledging that sometimes there are things we can't change no matter what, is really difficult to do. There is often that feeling of "if I had done this differently ....".

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I think that is part of acceptance. @soul The proactive kind. To resolve, rather than accept. The need to resolve it within ourselves, to our own satisfaction, then accept why we did what we did .. and move forward from there. That to me is a key element in the acceptance process.

Yes! This is one thing that psychologists initially found a bit difficult to support individuals with anxiety is the tendency of questioning every thought. I think this is also why many practitioners have moved on to Mindfulness. I like how people descript mindfulness guided CBT as "consider yourself as a third person, almost like an out of body experience to observe and accept the you that you are now'. If your practice is guided by some form of judgment, then it is hard and difficult to practice all the time.

@snowlee127 To me the one big overlap of both mindfulness and CBT is self awareness. Would you agree with that?

@Tanoozle yes, we have changing identity, changing life circumstance, changing social environment, we often are trying to hold on to the external things, but we came to life with knowing of death. How much can we really physically own? Very well said @Tanzoozle and especially for carers, for people who had experienced trauma, many people have to move beyond the concept of 'why me' to be able to see the light. Knowing that it is a journey no matter what is a form of coping.