Ask Anything Monday!

I know what you mean @PeppiPatty my friend xx

when I wrote to find a balance in caring for others and caring for yourself ,

which is very hard as you want to keep going and going and you want to be there for them

; I didnt see her all weekend,( the question was from me) she wants to see us every day, I just can't do it but feel very

Arrogent not going.

She rang me this afternoon sobbing saying that she thinks that she's dying and I said that Ille take her to the Doctors with my husband..

I dont know if she has other help. I know that she has other friends who go and visit her. She has got genuine problems...

like the beginning of ms bad symptoms......

but I can't. I feel so arrogent and bad.

@utopia your message makes so much selce when you say some people need to be 'sick,' want attention.

Oh golly @utopia

I took her to hospital and stayed with her and she was sent home. When we were srivinghome and shes going on about how much her children hated her, she called them being demanding.

Today, I'm just staying home letting my husband fuss around me.

I realise it's spending times in Mental ill health but ......there may need to be more Social Workers out there visiting people in lonely, breakdown situations or something......

I'm so lucky Ive got you all to help me through this time. Thank you.

Im not able to commmit to see her until next Monday. Once per week. She is unwilling to help herself. YOur words are good for me to read.

Happy Monday everyone!

Thank you to @utopia @PeppiPatty @Shaz51 @Former-Member @Former-Member for engaging in discussion on the last question.

Our first question for 2017 is:

I have been in & out of hospital for 5 years with my mental illness. Most of the time is voluntary and it's for about a month or so. I have found hospital to be... well not pleasant, but really beneficial for me. Most of the time my meds needed a change and the hospital is the best place to do that.

I often hear people talk about going to hospital as a terrible thing and I'm starting to wonder if there's something wrong with me because I find it very safe and reassuring to go?

Is going to hospital such a bad thing?

Hospital is definitely not a bad thing. I have been admitted voluntarily in a private hospital 5 times over the past 6 years. And each time I have found it to be beneficial. I feel that I can have my own space in my room, have the support from the nurses and psychologists as well as group therapy. And just chatting to others.

I think you should just trust your own gut instinct - if you are happy and feel comfortable then that's great. Everyone has their own experience with being in hospital, some good some not so good.

For me, it's been a great thing. I've had meds changed while in there and I know it's the best place for me to just take a breather for a few weeks; time out for me and no one else.

Definitely recommend it 🙂

Such an interesting question @NikNik! We do hear of really mixed experiences regarding hospital stays.

It's great to hear that the person posing the question, as well as @utopia and @BlueBay, have found hospital stays beneficial. Indeed, they aim to keep people safe during particularly difficult times, which can include periods of severe SI, or medication changes.

As @utopia said, the atmosphere of public and private hospitals can be quite different. I'd also echo @BlueBay's point that everyone has their own experience of being in hospital, and this can also vary between stays for the same person!

I've noticed a bit of a pattern that people who go to hospital voluntarily seem to have a more positive view of their stay. Perhaps this has something to do with feeling more in control due to being proactive in looking after their own wellbeing. I'd be interested to hear others' thoughts on this.

Shimmer