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Fullofhope79Senior Contributor
So we managed to organise phsychs for both of us and counseling for our marriage. But im just so tired. I'm tired of the anger of feeling shut out of the lack of communication. I'm trying I really am but I just want to cry and quit all at once.
Could really use a bit of love from someone who gets it.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
@Fullofhope79
Not sure what to say other than 'I hear you' at the moment
I am feeling similar emotions right now to what you have shared and unsure where to turn, like you quitting is not an option for me, the person I fell in love with is still trapped inside there somewhere.
I recently snapped in response to something saying some unkind works and drove off in the car, that is not who I am and I am not ok with that, this weighs heavy on my heart. That was at the point of 'I cant do this any more, Bye' - counselling is not an option for us other than to 'sort me out' because I am the problem 😞
I am grateful that someone I trust has seen me sinking and has reached out, we are catching up for coffee early next week. Contemplating not going to work tomorrow in which case there may even be an opportunity to catch up tomorrow. Family activity planned on the weekend that has the potential to be a pressure cooker on account of being in public around people, and a long day. Past experiences gives cause for concern around safety in the return commute. If I were to say no because.... then I am the villain, so I do what I can and make the most of the opportunity for a happy adventure.
So in light of that walking along side you and trust there can be some peace and direction for you both in the near future.
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Fullofhope79Senior Contributor
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Fullofhope79Senior Contributor
We were booked and paid for teleheath marriage counseling tonight. Only to have the psych be a no show!!! No wonder so many just give up.
Honestly though it did force us to take action ourselves and I feel really great after spending time praying together and listening to our worship music. Our faith is so important to us.
Not giving up on finding help yet but will never give up on our faith. It's the one thing that doesn't let us down.
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DeterminedSenior Contributor
@Fullofhope79
It is encouraging to hear you share about your faith. This is a source of encouragement for me also.
I pray that you can both have some peace and direction in this process.
I spent some time this afternoon with a Christian mentor to work through some tricky emotions. (The person mentioned earlier who called me out for not being ok).
No answers just a shoulder to lean on, someone with shared values who is not going to say you deserve better, look after yourself. Some gentle genuine support to look after myself while continuing to support those around me.
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Fullofhope79Senior Contributor
@Determined we all need friends like this. No advice no talking you what they think is right. Just there, and a prayer.
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