NQR0608Casual Contributor
I need help
I don’t even know where to begin.
I have 17yo and 19yo daughters living at home with me.
I am a single parent.
their father is around but unhelpful on many levels.
My 17yo urgently needs mental health help in the form of a psychologist or psychiatrist but we keep hitting brick walls.
She has been in the emergency department 7 times in 3-4 months due to threats of self harm. A lot of those times she has called the ambulance for herself while I’ve been out.
once at the hospital, she wants to leave. She treats medical staff like crap (verbally abusive).
She was taken to ED in an ambulance via police escort at one time.
I delayed going, in the hopes she would stay.
She absconded and demanded I pick her up.
Poljce found her near the hospital, but because she knows what to say…if she says she’s no longer suicidal, she not a threat to herself or others, the police lawfully can’t take her back to the hospital against her will.
So I brought her home, only for her to start all over again.
She has almost daily outbursts over seemingly small inconveniences.
I wasn’t home, but got a call from police to say they had arrested my youngest and was bringing my eldest in to make a statement.
I went down to the police station and listened to the recording my 17yo had made during the altercation. She had no remorse at all.
My eldest now has a restraining order in her sister, stating she cannot hurt or threaten to hurt her or damage belongings etc.
My 17yo now has a grudge, saying it’s unfair etc etc.
My eldest owns a cat (we have 3 cats and a dog…dog belongs to 17yo), and her cat has had anxiety problems since the dog came into our home.
She has been urinating outside the litter box, and for some reason, it’s almost always on my 17yo belongings.
We have the cat on anti anxiety medication and keep her confined 98% of the time which is helping.
Today, my 17yo’s dog peed on my shoes and in the laundry twice. He also defecated in 17yo’s bedroom 2 days ago. She cleaned it without making a scene.
Today she is saying a cat peed on her blanket. I inspected it, and suspect it was actually her dog as it was huge. But she didn’t want to hear it.
TW: Abuse
She threatens to end the cats lives any time she is annoyed by them. She claims to have crushed up pain killers [edited by moderator] hidden away to put in their food.
She has done a mental health assessment. She was referred to a psychologist only for them to say they’re not taking new patients. I was under he impression Ashe was given a new referral but she doesn’t let me attend any dr appointments and apparently I was wrong.
We have had CPS involved due to my daughter claiming I am neglecting her and don’t feed her or let her shower (because her sister had a shower before her and used the hot water).
We then had Anglicare involved with their MSIT program. That helped somewhat but the verbal aggression and threats continue.
I persist ally have a history of DV - witnessing it as a child and enduring two DV relationships.
I am not coping at all and feel completely lost.
My nervous system shuts down during conflict and I have memory loss due to going into fight, flight or freeze mode.
I honestly cannot do this anymore. We need immediate psych help but can’t get it.
There is soooo much more I could write but this is the bare bones of it.
