@Shaz51
My elder didn't know how to approach it, how wife said so, so I created a plan myself.
Last week whenever I started feeling anxious I identified 1 physical attribute that was different, like his ears are taller, with the aim to identify 10.
When I started getting overwhelmed today I went over my list of 10 physical differences.
This week is 10 personal differences, like he clenches his shoulders when he is trying to make a point, I'm up to 6, so will need to find 4 more in the second service.
Next week its 10 atmospheric differences, what about where I am now is different.