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I feel like Im drowning

MistSalJCasual Contributor02 July 2025, 11:39 pm AEST

I feel like Im drowning

I’ve grown apart from most of my friends—not out of bitterness, but because I gave so much of myself to people who took too much. I don’t regret protecting my peace, but now I don’t really know how to ask for help or open up honestly without people thinking something is “seriously wrong.”

The truth is: I’m not okay.

I’m heartbroken over someone I truly believed was my person. I supported them through their worst—and now that they’re okay, it’s like I’m no longer needed. That pain runs deep.

At the same time, my daughter is becoming more independent, and while that should be a beautiful thing, it’s left me feeling more alone than ever.

I used to be strong, driven, motivated. Now I can barely get myself to shower or clean. My mind knows what needs to be done—but my body feels heavy, frozen. I feel

invisible, like I’m fading in my own life.

I’m tired. I don't know how to speak up!

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In response to: I feel like Im drowning

rav3nSenior Contributor03 July 2025, 10:54 am AEST

Re: I feel like Im drowning

hey @MistSalJ that sounds really tough. and speaking out here seems like a big step, so i'm proud of you for taking that.

i can see that you care deeply for your loved ones, and that you've been there for them when they needed you most - it can definitely hurt when those loved ones can't pick up on your pain and be there for you. but i assure you, it doesn't mean they don't 'care'... but perhaps, they might need more communication around how to support you? (i.e. do you want a listening ear? do you want company? do you want advice? do you want encouragement to seek professional support, etc.)

it also sounds like you've poured so much of yourself into others, and haven't had a chance to pour back to yourself as much? you deserve the same love and care that you give others, and maybe this week you can do something nice for yourself? @MistSalJ i know that invisible feeling too, it's a really lonely feeling. but please know - we see you and we're here for you 💙

In response to: Re: I feel like Im drowning

tymeModerator03 July 2025, 6:28 pm AEST

Re: I feel like Im drowning

Hey there @MistSalJ , I'm so sorry to hear how hurt you feel. Your feelings are valid and you are certainly not alone.

What have you done tonight as part of self-care?

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