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Topic Tuesday: Stepping off the distress seesaw **closed**

Topic Tuesday: Stepping off the distress seesaw **closed**

Up and down, down and up, and upside down...

Have you ever felt as though you are being held to ransom by an all consuming distress seesaw?

Join us this Topic Tuesday, to discuss journeys, and share strategies to leave the seesaw.

We will be joined by @Former-Member - a health professional who specialises in trauma.

SunnyDaisy describes her thoughts on this:

"I once had someone tell me that their experience of living with the effects of a difficult experience was like being stuck at the top end of a see-saw.

The weight of the difficult experience sits on the ground at the other end of the see-saw and life is consumed by this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P8nMgY5dkTs

After receiving the support that was required to deal with the difficult experience/s, it felt like they were able to climb down from the see-saw and leave the all-consuming distress on the see-saw.

This does not mean forgetting about the difficult experience. It is a matter of gradually finding more space in life to participate in life and enjoy other things – a sense of no longer being held to ransom by the difficult experience .

How do you relate your difficult experiences to this 'see-saw' idea? Do you have an experience of climbing down from the high end of the see-saw?"

We've got a few members who might be able to contribute to this dicussion. @Loopy @Alessandra1992 @kristin @Rick @kenny66 @SCORPION @Cazzie Are you around tonight?

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In response to: Topic Tuesday: Stepping off the distress seesaw **closed**

Re: Topic Tuesday - now open: Stepping off the distress seesaw

Hey Loopy, thanks for your comment.

I couldn't agree with you more ... the roundabout of finding self back at the top of the seesaw is common.

Often, people seem to view this as a failure.

However, it is part of the process to re-visit the see-saw and be able to see the places where we are managing differently or better.

What do you do when you find yourself back on the top of the see-saw Loopy?

In response to: Topic Tuesday: Stepping off the distress seesaw **closed**

Re: Topic Tuesday - now open: Stepping off the distress seesaw

SunnyDaisy, after seventeen years of facing trauma of just about every type and no councelling, I retired and have been on the PTSD see-saw and roundabout since 1989. During that time I regulary see a Psychiatris and take medication but I still cannot break the never ending cycle.

loopy

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Re: Topic Tuesday - now open: Stepping off the distress seesaw

oh right, i see

so for instance putting up a front around people, to show that everything is alright, is like shielding myself from a distressing situation?

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Re: Topic Tuesday - now open: Stepping off the distress seesaw

That sounds like a challenging situation, Loopy.

Do you find that friends are accepting and/or supportive of you when you are back on the high-end of the see-saw?

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Re: Topic Tuesday - now open: Stepping off the distress seesaw

SunnyDaisy, I go into "panic mode" and isolate until a little hint taps me from behind and, with agreat deal of effort, I crawl out from under my rock and gingerly face reality for a time. The period can be a week or a month but I never know.

loopy.

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Re: Topic Tuesday - now open: Stepping off the distress seesaw

SunnyDaisy, in a word "NO" my illness was not recognised and is still not within the Emergency Services.

loopy

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Re: Topic Tuesday - now open: Stepping off the distress seesaw

That could be one way of protecting youself . Though I imagine it could also bring its own distress ...

What I have heard from people is that they find internal ways to ensure they are not triggered ... they may look 'OK' externally, they may look distracted. But they leave the situation feeling internally OK.

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Re: Topic Tuesday - now open: Stepping off the distress seesaw

SunnyDaisy, I am sorry, only in this forum do I get tjhe understanding and words of encouragement.

loopy.

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Re: Topic Tuesday - now open: Stepping off the distress seesaw

@Loopy... sounds like you have found ways to manage, even though on the merry-go-round.

Would you like to share some of the things you do to get you through difficult periods?

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Re: Topic Tuesday - now open: Stepping off the distress seesaw

SunnyDaisy, I get memory recall for no particular reason what so ever. It can happen when by myself, in a crowd or watching TV. When it happens I can feel the tears welling up and I make a bee line to somewhere away from everything and crawl back under the rock.

loopy

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