No more to give

Hey @Ed1975, sounds like you are going through a tough time with your brother and his MH. Thank you for reaching out to your peers here on the Forums, which are such a supportive space to share our experiences.

I understand that it's tough for you, but you are demonstrating your resilience and practising self-care by looking after your own MH first. It can be hard when a loved one won't reach out for support themselves. Sometimes all we can do is be there for them and let them know that we care while gently encouraging them to seek support.

I'm sure the community will have some insights to share with you too!

You might like to introduce yourself here: https://saneforums.org/t5/Welcome-and-getting-started/Welcome-Introduce-yourself-here/m-p/1149480

Take care

RiverSeal

Yes indeed @Ed1975 .

Not suicide but other MH and life-threatening conditions. I don't feel able to share details but it's emotionally and financially draining and I'm not coping. It's impacting my MH.

There's so many trite sayings like you can't pour from an empty cup and put on your own oxygen mask first but it hurts like hell to see it all happening and be unable to help.

Families...

@Dimity it's frustrating. I'm always the one reaching out, if I didn't, I'd hardly ever hear from him unless he was pleading for me to send him money. Sometimes it's US that may need reaching out to.

True @Ed1975 . But people have told me to just walk away which I can't do. A/ they'd have noone and B/ it could have been me.

Saw this on another thread.

Are you OK?

Yes, thanks @Dimity . It's just a lot to carry.

@Ed1975

reaching out, as someone who has experienced similar situations, but I cannot make pretty promises.

I shared a little when you began sharing, about your brother’s death.

you can only do what you can honestly do and be yourself. You can only stretch so much. Each person ultimately is personally responsible for any actions like that they take.

The “legacy” of suicide can be hell for family members.

TW: Suicide and self-harm

We all had CPTSD from significant childhood abandonment. They were in foster homes much longer than I and from younger.

We need to do our grief journeys, whilst also affirming life.

I don’t believe my siblings realised how much devastation would unfold. I don’t want to frighten anyone.

you do need to respect your limits.

I'm so so sorry to hear this @Appleblossom ,

It sounds so hard to go through what you did. I can hear how stretched you were and how you still had to push through to support your own family.

Hugs

@Ed1975 @Hearing you about the limits of case management…on other thread… yes some people need hope… but I am not sure it is ethical to

my son has had a poor showing with case management… he has just had to submit and comply… and put up with it. I am pretty disappointed in the system watching from the side,

yes, the limits to their capacity to work with trauma is a worry. A couple years ago, I was asked to do, and then to teach a Diploma in Community Service… a standard qual… I was so unimpressed by the course I felt morally obliged to withdraw and refuse to teach it.

Wish the system was better. I also hope you actually do get reasonable therapy. Good to see you around the forums.

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