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It is a good feeling to look back on a clean house and a job well done @Pepsimax Now you can put your feet up and relax. Will you be watching any good TV shows this evening?

You should be @Pepsimax .... you're way ahead of me today.

I have just come home with essential household supplies like .... you know .... FOOD .... before my baby dragons are forced to eat the furniture .... (want quite running that low, but teens and 20-somethings perceive it that way ....)

Hi @Former-Member .... I am glad you are feeling more settled today. It must have been a very confronting moment with and for your hubby ....

Mine is checking in with me once or twice a day .... obviously exhausted .... and I have to keep my mind from wandering to scary possible scenarios, particularly while he is so far away. But he is busy, focussed on his regimen, and it's giving us some time-out here .... so I have to be thankful for that much.

I have picked up coat hangers to keep on with clearing up my wardrobe and unpack my case back into it, so that's my main agenda today.

Hello dear @Faith-and-Hope

It was a shocking moment as we both thought the cancer was behind us. I think I am in the adjustment period as my mind is still trying to fathom what has just come upon us. And my daughter has had a turn - I can't believe the timing. So I am trying to take everything in my stride calmly moment to moment. So far so good 🙂

Sometimes I think we all just need to release that initial shock and grief with a vent (which I did with not so good results unfortunately lol), and once that's released we can allow ourselves to adapt. I think I am in that process.

Has your husband gone away? It's good that he is checking in with you up to twice a day to give you peace of mind that he is okay. So important to keep your mind off the scarey scenarios - he will be looked after my friend as you will be and all will be well. It is good that your hubby is keeping busy and focused, that will keep his mind off any negativity that may try and creep in. How long has hubby been gone for now?

Please keep me updated with how it all goes with hubby as I will be thinking of you both. I am always here for you my lovely friend. You are one special lady. We will both get there in the end 💕🌹🤗xx

@Pepsimax 💕🌹😊xx

That's what I am going to do also @Pepsimax - put my feet up and watch some of my favourites shows. I particularly enjoy quizz shows and the crime channel. Enjoy your evening watching TV dear @Pepsimax 📺😀

Hi @Faith-and-Hope - I can understand your concern and anxiety over your husband's wellbeing with him being in denial about his eating disorder. So he is not under any professional help? And the whole onus of his welfare is mainly on you? That's a big load my friend and I think you are wise not making it your central focus for your own health and well being. Keeping that balance is so important (as I myself have to do). Does hubby have any intention of seeking help any time in the future or is he in total denial?

I understand what you mean by his need to escape to work. How are you coping with managing everything at home on your own? Are you receiving any support there? I think it's wonderful that you help others so generously whilst struggling under such responsibility - and it must get lonely at times. Hugs 🤗

He is in total denial @Former-Member .... I have a thread on the Carers forum that goes into it. I don't want to spell out too much here as I know @Pepsimax is working to reduce her anxiety, so I will add that we have expstablished coping mechanisms and apart from that ongoing background concern, our adult kids and I have to take a big, deep breath and try to relax ourselves.

I have also posted information under What's New: services, research and technologies if it interests you to understand more about our struggle.

https://eatingdisorders.saneforums.org/t5/What-s-new-services-research-and/bd-p/le-forum-0005

Thank you for your supportive comments. It really helps to know you care.

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