I need advice, please

Hi, I also have my own issues of MI and care for my daughter 19 with Aspergers and social anxiety. Its my job to try and see where she will go in her future and get her to therapies and coach her to some indepedence.

My daughter started a part time creative writing course and we report to a disability employment service once each 2 weeks, to keep being active and check in to see with them if any employer would give her a chance at some hours of employment and centrelink would otherwise cancel her pension .I drive my daughter to all her appointments, so I am relatively quiete busy, we live rural so getting her on public transports a no. So I'm with her on her appoitments. We are now seeing how the NDIS will help. My daughter is my priority.

I suffer from reacting huge to stress others deem normal. I also have low self esteem from a toxic childhood. I'm also nanna to 2 children , one of them is a baby. This family is on one wage and the mum likes to spend money. Sons partner has been offered a p/time job. I've been approached and I said I would only accept one day of babysitting with the grandkids. My daughters life is my priority. How would I look if I said to disability employment "M------ cant do this work experience cause I'm exhuasted lugging 2 extra kids around' so we'll have to leave that day out' I'm 52 and I have trouble feeling accepted and loved if I stand my priorities. I know I will be approached for more babysitting, the mum doesnt want to spend all her new wages on daycare. Please help me, I get too involved and feel like I have to fix things. 😞 and be liked.

i'm starting to panic.