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Loneliness

Unsanelane10Casual Contributor

Loneliness

Hi Everybody, this has been very hard for me to write, and frankly very embarrassing. There are times when i feel so alone, there are times when i’m so desperate to find someone to talk to that i scroll you my contacts, only to get heartbroken every time because i know in my bones that there isn’t a single person i can talk to in a time of need. I havent had any friends, ever, the ones i did when I waa younger made me feel like crap. For the past 13 years ive had no friends, some days i feel lonelier than others, today has been one of the days, where i just feel so empty, like a zombie, going by my day, desperate for someone to talk to or to be able to cry, but i can’t. How does it get easier?

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tymeModerator

Re: Loneliness

Hey @Unsanelane10 ,

Thank you for sharing. I know it's the wee hours of the morning, so I'm coming to you from a land far away.

At the same time, I have to say I can relate to your feelings of loneliness and isolation. It's not easy.

I have also mee through years of loneliness. Even when I was in a room/house full of people, I felt lonely.

What are things in life that keep you going? Things that give you meaning in life?

Please know you are not alone.

There is a whole community behind you here.

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MissGremlinSenior Contributor

Re: Loneliness

Hello @Unsanelane10. I hear you, it's horrible to feel so alone and I'm sorry that you find yourself in this position. I am the same, I'll go through my list of contacts and realise that there's simply not one person that I can message to chat to when I need to. It's truly heartbreaking to feel that loneliness and emptiness. As for things getting easier, it's always possible for things to change.

Please know that you are not alone here, we are here for you and will always listen and support you however we can.

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snowflake231Senior Contributor

Re: Loneliness

This is exactly why I joined this forum. I so desperately would like to chat to someone but don't have anyone. I would love to chat with you about anything you like just message.

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NightFurySenior Contributor

Re: Loneliness

@Unsanelane10 I can relate to some degree.This is something that I have been going through lately. I was asked to identify my support network and it was at that point when I realised that I didn't have one. This was made worse last week when my washing machine broke down and I have tried to fix it, but I can't and again...I realised just how on my own I am. It hits hard.

Loneliness has such a huge impact on wellbeing and mental health. People speak about getting outside of your comfort zone and creating connections and community and it's easier said than done, I think.

You've taken a big step in reaching out here though, so we'll done!

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tymeModerator

Re: Loneliness

Hi @Unsanelane10 ,

How are you today?

I look forward to hearing from you.

Is there anything in particular you hope to achieve from being on the forums?

@snowflake231 , so great to hear from you. I'm glad connecting with others is helpful. How has your day been?

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zvornuNew Contributor

Re: Loneliness

Friend circles decrease as you get older, have you ever considered joining an acting class?

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