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Getting ghosted

Abbz77Senior Contributor

Getting ghosted

Hi,

I’ve been dating a guy who vanished mid conversation Saturday night and I haven’t seen or heard a peep from him since. Usually we’d spend all day Sunday chatting.

Not sure whether to be worried for his welfare as he’s got Covid atm or be mad at him for freaking me out with anxiety over the continuing silence. I’ve tried WhatsApp, video calling, emailing and chat in Words With Friends with no response. At this point I’d settle for being told to **** off rather than the nothing deafening my senses.

Desperately hoping he was just called in to work unexpectedly and isn’t upside down in a ditch in a wrecked car somewhere, helpless and alone. I know I’m awfulising, guys and catastrophising but I can’t help it when I’m ***this*** worried.

Hurting, not healing today totally sucks.

thanks for listening.

take care.

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In response to: Getting ghosted

RiverSealModerator

Re: Getting ghosted

Hey @Abbz77, thank you for sharing your experiences with the community!

It takes courage to share and to be vulnerable with your peers here on the Forums, and you are demonstrating that you are brave and resilient.

I have had my own experiences with this and have catastrophised the situation too. I know that I worked on how much of myself I give to other people so I don't become too attached. This took time to work on, but it has made me more resilient in my relationships. We all are individuals, so what worked for me is not necessarily going ot be what works for you.

I hope the community can share their insights into this with you!

Take care

RiverSeal

In response to: Re: Getting ghosted

AbzSenior Contributor

Re: Getting ghosted

Thanks very much RiverSeal. He turned up this morning and is suitably sorry for upsetting me so much. Phew!
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