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Talking through trauma and PTSD

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Till23Senior Contributor

Tillogram

I am wondering if anyone has any strategies that have helped them to banish the “Not Good Enough” thoughts.

It is apparently a common problem for those with childhood trauma (likely other things as well).

I think I try pretty hard to surmount this feeling. I have completed university degrees, I have worked pretty much continuously from age 14yo. I try to participate in sport and different other activities. I volunteer.

Maybe “doing things” is not the correct strategy (although it does act as a distraction).

I still think I am not good enough.

@tyme @Jynx @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @Dimity

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Till23Senior Contributor

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Thanks @AuntGlow I know you won't read this until tomorrow which will be after I have left. But thanks very much for your kind words and also for sharing a bit of your experiences of travelling.

I don't have that person who is going to come over and help me pack. I also have to get to Sydney first to fly out.

I'm not worried about flying I have a much, much higher risk of death driving to the airport than I do on the plane.

Equally when I did the Aussie thing of going and living in London, even though there was some hard times, sleeping in some interesting places like train stations etc, only eating on a day that I worked etc Overall I had the best time, seeing and experiencing some wonderful things, historical things, like fall of Berlin wall, I went to Russia as USSR was self destructing, and came back with heaps of great stories. There were no mobile phones or internet back then!

I can't believe how courageous I was. I will have to try and channel that person.

And Yes, I have to try and thrive, not just survive.

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Till23Senior Contributor

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Thanks to everyone who has chatted to, and supported me over the last few months

I probably won't remember to name you all @tyme @AuntGlow @Jynx @rav3n @Ru-bee @RiverSeal @Shaz51 @Appleblossom @MJG017 @MissGremlin @NightFury @Dimity @ArraDreaming @Oaktree and all the others thank you.

I am off on a trip now. I'm not 100% sure if I'll be back so just saying thanks

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OaktreeSenior Contributor

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@Till23

I have loved getting to know you. Stay safe!

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MissGremlinSenior Contributor

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@Till23 you are more than deserving of all the support you have received. And I'm so thankful for the support you have given me ♥️.

I hope you enjoy your trip.

I really hope we will see you back here but if not I truly wish you the best for whatever your future holds ♥️

Sending you hugs, you are amazing never forget that ♥️

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AuntGlowModerator

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We all appreciate you so much! @Till23 When you can, think of the younger you that was immensely courageous and adventurous, and know that she still exists - picture her cheering you on and know that you have absolutely got this.

We hope to talk to you again soon.

Bon Voyage. 💛💛💛

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DimitySenior Contributor

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Calm sea and prosperous voyage are my wishes for you @Till23 short and/or long term https://youtu.be/7VUz-PZx528?feature=shared

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Hugs my awesome sister ❤️ @Till23 , thinking of you lots ❤️

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NightFurySenior Contributor

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@Till23 I'm no good at goodbyes because they make me emotional and awkward...

Like right now...

Safe travels.

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rav3nSenior Contributor

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safe travels! @Till23 it's always a delight seeing you around the forums and hearing your thoughts. you will absolutely be missed. i do hope to see you again but if we don't, sending you lots of love 💗

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

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Safe travels for the bits that need safety, Lots of chutzpah for the bits that need energy, and have a ball…. When it is right.

@Till23

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