I have no friends or family

Hi @Lite

I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling alone, but I'm glad that you've been able to reach out here today. I'm here with you.

When you think of a real friend, what characteristics would that relationship have?

Someone who is supportive and likes to be with me.

I guess I have been hurt so many times by people I thought were friends. I don't know how to find people who will like me and want to see me.

Like when I was homeless no one would take me in. That really hurt. Especially when they had a spare bedroom and space.

So now I know there is no one in this world who cares if I sleep on the streets or not.

@Lite I'm so sorry that those around you didn't show up for you in those times when you did really need them. I can understand why you'd be feeling that those friendships weren't real and why you'd be hesitant to put yourself out there and be risk being hurt again.

Were there times in the past when you felt like you did have friendships that were real or supportive?

My mum but she died. Now there's no one.

@Lite I've not even met you and I care deeply that you have a safe place to call home!! Everyone deserves that.

Nice to meet you btw, I'm sorry to hear that it's been so rough for you and so difficult to find some solid connections in your life. Good people who are also our people can be SO hard to find.

I hope that you do find some quality connection here on the forums, I know I have 😊

Feel free to tag me any time you want to chat!! (Just use the @ symbol and a drop down will appear, and you can choose their name. If their name isn't there, you can type it out and it should then appear for you to select, then it will show up in blue, like this: @Ru-bee)

How do we find our people when the real ones died? Now I have no one.

I'm so sorry for your loss @Lite it sounds as though your mother was such an important presence in your life and a wonderful support for you.

I wonder if it might help to test out building connections here on the forums? Could that be a bit of a low-risk way to build on your confidence in forming supportive friendships? You could see what does/doesn't work and perhaps that could help you in building some off-forums friendships too

How do I do that?

Just by taking it one step at a time @Lite

You might like to introduce yourself in one of the social threads, and share a bit about yourself if you feel comfortable. Like good friendships, the forums can be all about both giving and receiving support, so it might also be nice to provide some words of support to others if you feel up to it.