Advice please!

Hi all,

I am desperately in need of some advice and third party input.

My partner has a diagnosis of PTSD and also Bi-polar. He takes medication daily for his Bi-polar. However, due to his ongoing refusal to be regularly assessed and reviewed and/or have any counselling therapy as per his Dr's recommendation and referral, I feel his condition is not currently 100% well managed.

He has been experiencing breakthrough episodes of insomnia/hypermania/low mood swings/agitation/verbal aggression and impulsiveness. My partner also has a diagnosis of osteoarthritis in his right hip and knee which is becoming progressively worse and is causing him chronic pain which is also making him moody and angry at the loss of his mobility and ability to participate in the highly physical activities that he enjoys.

We are currently in the process of purchasing a new home together and I feel he is pressuring me to buy a small, run down shack in a very remote bush setting. This idea frightens me as I would be isolated from my family/friends, social networks and employment opportunities. In the past when we owned a few acres of land, he spent all day from early morning until night in a bobcat behaving quite manically riding up and down digging up dirt and picking up rocks. He would forget to eat/drink all day. I would have to remind him to stop for food/drinks. I also felt like I had to constantly monitor him as on one occasion, he also almost tipped the machine over on top of himself. If I try to explain to him that I do not want to live in a remote area in a sub-standard house that requires a massive clean/reno/update, he becomes either sulky or verbally aggressive I I feel this is intended to wear me down so I will agree to what he wants. I would appreciate some advice/feedback as the situation is making me feel very stressed.