Battles

What's happening for ya @MissGremlin

@Jynx the counsellor that cancelled my 2nd appointment I was supposed to have with her and didn't make contact for almost 3 weeks made contact this afternoon. It's really thrown me. I'm not sure what to do, I've got a proper appointment with her on Monday morning, but I don't even know what to talk about now. I had everything planned out for my last appointment of what I wanted to say but now I just don't know.

I've been sitting with it all afternoon, trying to do some self care and keep myself busy but it's just weighing heavily on me.

@MissGremlin legit feelings. All the stress and the waiting would make the original 'idea' of what the experience was gonna be like just vanish hey.

I think honesty is the best policy. Let them know how this has impacted you, and that it's left you feeling a little uncertain, which is making it difficult to feel like you can open up. If it were me, I'd be listening out in their response for things like being accountable (i.e. not just throwing excuses or saying you should have just done this or that), validating how it impacted me, and what they are gonna do to support the rebuilding of trust. Cos without trust there's not gonna be enough emotional safety to really delve into stuff hey.

I wish you luck, I reckon trust your gut, and I hope that they respond with compassion and not blame or shame 🤞💜

@Jynx yeah that's exactly right. Like the first appointment was amazing and I was looking forward to the second cos we really clicked. But then it was cancelled and everything went downhill from there.

I was honest with her today and she apologised cos she knew exactly how I felt, during the first appointment we had gone into how I felt when I've been let down by professionals before. She said she had been thinking about me and knew I would have been struggling given she hadn't made contact. But that trust very much feels broken at the moment and I worry about if it's possible to get it back.

hey @MissGremlin thought id say i get ya totally as my last 6 weeks i lost continuity of 2 psychologists one ive had 30 sessions with who taught me what safe space is and other sira one i had 42 sessions with over last 2 years as she has moved onto doimg assesments for autism and adhd type things.

new sira psychologist seemed ok and was handpicked ny previops one as shes qualified for emdr and as we spoke of my psychiatrist wants me to do once i have the tools and ability to use them properly.

she seemed ok and said same thing about cbt in my case as my safe psychologist who i trust entirely so ok i give her a chance second session i didnt get any off signals either.

then next ones cancelled coz sick, then yjey ring to book in next sessions and i get a bit frazzelled by it i cant answer what day i want to anything in december and next month shes on annual leave and that was me overloadedi was just following like a good boy but at that point yeah ok just didnt sit good and i was in the similiar situation as you described and ended up saying ya know what f##$ that you know i your replacing ,,,,,, and last week was my last time seeing ,,,,,, until she gets her own practice running over coming months so your it and from what i see moving forward just looks like a fkn joke so i dont know what im sposed to say or what you expect me to say but im hearing you say im on my own for 6 weeks and that doesnt feel like support at all.

they are going to organise a care team for me while shes away so im wondering if thats going to be someone that actually reads up on who i am and how not good things get if im triggered.

this one doesnt realise im well aware of what works for me in therapy and she doesnt get same version of me as my last psychologists did just because she has same plaque above her door.

Trust is not something i want or need to give and reading rooms for me was about survival not getting a grade and its quite telling where you stand if a few significant things are deliberately said in session and next session no recognition after a calculated repetition... its an advantage being the client at the start.

i hope your initial sense of the dynanics was accurate as it may well be the case.

i think its a ridiculous process every 6 sessions have to go and ask for another 6 please when its pretty bloody obvious on session number 40 its going to take more than that for me to discern if im even going to be vulnerable with a new therapist.

sorry just noticed im preaching to the choir you may of been dealing with the same system your whole life and i only had to since nov 2023

@Bunniekinsthought I'd tag you in my thread seeing as though I'm in yours ☺️

@MissGremlin hey Dreamy thank you for tagging me in your thread. hope you are having a super morning. love bun xx

@REDLINEZ750 hey Red how are you going? 🙂

Hey @REDLINEZ750

I can hear it's been challenging in therapy particularly around getting consistent and ongoing support, where it's difficult when you have a new therapist coming in, and have to keep requesting further sessions. Having someone who understands our situation and what our triggers might be is important hey! Please keep us updated on how things are going🌻.

How do other members cope with this situation of having a new therapist, particularly when you're uncertain of what their approach will be?

TunedIn🌷

im goood thanks honey @Bunniekins was cool now its just shot up so quickly..... yuck!

looking like a dusk mow, hope you enjoy your day

you also @MissGremlin, good morning i hope you had good sleep and didnt mind me posting about battles of therapy just hoped to show your not alone 😊

@TunedIn @MissGremlin @REDLINEZ750 my psychiatrist is changing residence soon and i am not coping with that at all. i like the hospital that she is in i know the nurses i like the car park i dont like the idea of moving one single bit!