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Life can be a Pain

DecadianSenior Contributor

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

Dec

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Owlunar2Senior Contributor

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Thanks @Oaktree

The matriarch - I guess so - I am the oldest person in a scattered family - but -

I spoke to my daughter and two of my cousins today and emailed one in Canada

I hope they live-stream the

ceremony - it's up to them - watching such an event can be gutwrenching - families need each other at these rites of passage

All my young fun uncles and my dad have passed

Aw - I need a coffee

Owlunar 🦉

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OaktreeSenior Contributor

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@Owlunar2

I am sorry for your loss. Enjoy your coffee hun x

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Owlunar2Senior Contributor

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And my DVD @Oaktree

It's the first season of Downton Abbey

Thanks Oaktree

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Hugs my mummabear @Owlunar2 ❤️

And sorry to hear about your uncle

Please take care 😊

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor

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Gentle hugs @Owlunar2

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Owlunar2Senior Contributor

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Many thanks @Shaz51 - @Appleblossom

I had a heavy-hearted day yesterday - Tuesday about my uncle - and today it's 10 years since my mother died and next week it be 14 years since dad died and it all piled up on me

Yes I am tough and resilient - still I was exhausted

I took it easy - I broke a tooth and need to wait until I know when my uncle's funeral will be before I make a dental appointment

I'm okay - I understand why I feel this way but it's tough yards

Owlunar

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OaktreeSenior Contributor

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@Owlunar2

Sorry that you are doing it tough. Anniversaries can be difficult things.

Sending my love x

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Owlunar2Senior Contributor

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Thanks @Oaktree

Yes - anniversaries can be tough - today was easier until I spoke with my cousin about my uncle's funeral which is next Monday - now I feel unsettled again so I am taking a break

I am pretty sure my feelings about the funeral have more to do with my sister than anything else - I really have nothing at all to say to her - for my own well-being

Life is not always about games of Happy Families - so be it

There's a lot of history in the church where it will be held - I used to sing in the choir there and I was married there - wow

Thanks again

Owlunar

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tymeModerator

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Thinking of you @Owlunar2 . So good to see you.

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Zoe7Senior Contributor

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I am so sorry to hear about your uncle @Owlunar2 Sending you a lot of love 🥰

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