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Life can be a Pain

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

Dec

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We start back tomorrow @Owlunar and the kids on Wednesday. I am looking forward to seeing them all again (plus the new ones I will have) but am going to miss my fur babies. Fur babies will be okay ...me not so much lol It is hard going back to work and not having Toby especially by my side 24/7 but I will get used to it eventually.

It is a pity you had to give it up and can't go back in some way but your health is the most important. I hope you are okay and the week ahead brings so many moments of joy 💕

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Hi @Zoe7 @Shaz51 @outlander @Emelia8 @Appleblossom @Hams @Anastasia

@TAB @Historylover @greenpea @Snowie @Meowmy @EternalFlower @Judi9877

@Clawde

It's Monday and I have had better days - this one worked out all right though - after being uneasy all day about a prescription issue that I have not been given a reasonable reason for

I always get a repeat and I was due to get one today - alas no - the law has changed about filling repeats on this medication. I rang the pain clinic and felt really uncomfortable for hours until they got back to me - I was given another prescription - the think is - no one seems to know anything about this legal glitch.

I have enough medication to last me until this new script is compounded and so glad the pain clinic is so helpful - my shoulder is very unpredictable but it is improving gradually. It will never be perfect again but that's okay with me.

I had a phone call from My Aged Care about my level of disability - for want of a better description. It will most likely be increased. That's really good news I am happy to say.

I hope everyone is well as they can be - all the best

Owlunar

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Thanks for all the fruit info @Shaz51 - great stuff - someday I might actually get around to trying one of those big, delicious monster fruit though I have seen one in Melbourne. Maybe I will when I next go to Cairns - though yeah - that might be hard for one person to eat the whole lot.

You are so great with all the work you do here - all the supports and posts - goodonyer Shaz

Owlunar

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Hi @Owlunar

how are you? I have posted twice on this post to you but you haven't replied. I am not sure if i have done something wrong to you or you are upset with me.

It was so nice to see you back on the forum and I'm wondering why you haven't tagged me.

If you don't want to reply or chat to me that's fine.

I am finding it hard to understand.

take care xxx

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@BlueBay
I must respectfully ask you to not tag/post with me as I feel totally unable to help you further.
I have nothing against you - you have done nothing wrong. Your problems are yours to deal with - they are valid.
I have my own issues - some I never post - I am a reasonable but limited person.
I wish you the best"
Owlunar

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i will never tag you again @Owlunar

take care

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Great news about the increase for you @Owlunar Anything that can help is a good thing. I hope your pain levels are manageable - the laws change so often that it is hard to keep up with. My GP is on top of all that and relays it to me regularly so like you we have to work around it all.

We were having a discussion at work today about things we put in place for our own wellbeing - both physically and emotionally - and boundaries was one of them. It is so hard for us sometimes to put those in place for our own wellbeing but it takes both personal insight and courage to do that 💖

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Thanks so much for your support @Zoe77 - I don't really mind life being hard - I have grown through it - still it has its tough moments.

Boundaries are so important. I'm glad you had such a discussion at work today - also - I have been thinking about your first days back at school and working on boundaries for emotional and physical health is vitally important.

It is really hard to defend our boundaries and sometimes it can get icky or whatever fits - we can't help that - some children don't understand other people's position - their need for personal space - and the need for grownups to be in charge - it can be really rough.

Over twenty years ago now I had one little boy in my CE class tell me I wasn't a teacher - just an old lady coming in to pretend to be one - I stared him down because my teaching certificate was valid at that time - and told him I was as highly qualified as any other teacher in the school and for the rest of the year I had a polite little boy in the class - but hard - yes - I know

This evening a question was asked - I remember learning that we should never ask a question if we don't know what to do with the answer. I take it you read the subtext here. I was concerned and did not act unadvised. But still - I am sorry and I felt really unhappy for a while - I did have support - excellent support - I feel okay now.

Thanks for posting this evening - I had taken my strong medication and I was lying down - I decided to read my phone and I can't actually log in on my phone - I felt the need to respond straight away.

I do value my friendships here - so many people who go back for years - I felt as if I had abandoned everyone but I need the community too. The ads Sane has on my phone kept reminding me so I came back with one condition - necessary - I am glad I came back

Lots of love and thinking of you Zoe

Owlunar

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Sleep well tonight @Owlunar ❤️❤️

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I am really pleased my words reached you @Owlunar and even more so that you responded. It is so hard setting those boundaries but they are essential for our wellbeing. I can also hear that that has been difficult for you to do but I also understand the need to do so. Whether it be in a classroom with children, with family and/or friends or even on here - we often need to make those difficult (and sometimes distressing) decisions ...it is not easy but you have shown grace and courage in doing what is right for you.

I need to head to bed Hon but sending you a very big (gentle) hug 💖

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