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Life can be a Pain

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

Dec

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I love that @Owlunar thank you for sharing 🙏💕

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Love how they have grown together @Owlunar

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The Penultimate Straw

It's always important to notice the second last straw because the last straw is messy and I have no intention of letting life get that bad

However - when I was listening to the TV earlier and I heard Dan Andrews talking about people who are wilfully ignoring the lock-down restrictions. I felt really tired - and okay - this wore off but still - we are in our 6th lock-down in Melbourne and it is wearing thin

For the millions of us who are all touched by something with these lock-downs - I guess we will continue to comply - knowing that all the people who do are doing everything possible to keep us all safe and I am glad for this. But the few who are angry and feel they are losing their freedom unreasonably and trangress the restrictions organised to keep us safe and overcome this virus - this is starting to make me feel angry and why not?

The only thing I can do is to keep complying - hopefully enough people will be vaccinated soon and we can have some of our freedom back - in the meantime I know people in this forum are really suffering and I am with you - not suffering as seriously as most I am sure - I have plenty of things to occupy me and enough resilience to be okay about it.

Still I care about countless people alone in their homes feeling all sorts of contrait in their lives but complying - and families homeschooling while working at home - how can that be easy - possible even - I think I need another ablation into my shoulder but wonder if I can have that any time soon. People are missing family members - friends, how can this be good. But we are doing it.

I am having my rant and I think this is enough - but we are entitled to have our say.

Dec

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love your plant @Owlunar mum

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@Owlunar @Shaz51

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Hi @Shaz51 - I'm glad you like my cuddling plants - it's amazing that I walk past these every day and never noticed how affectionate they were becoming until recently and now I have to go outside and check them everyday.

Hi @outlander

I did get really unhappy and really tired about the COVID situation and the lock-downs and the incondsiderate people making the situation worse - I got over it though. I think it's really important to be in touch with our feelings - we can think about things and put them aside - or at least I try my best. Like a lot of things and for an awful lot of people things are wearing thin.

I took several weeks out from the forum recently - I am still catching up with a lot of people - so I am unsure how things are going with you - your family - and esp your Pop. It's very hard to have to care for someone with dementia. I understand that

One of my SW mother is developing dementia and I am getting a different idea - my SW does work with some people with dementia but with her mother it's so much harder - this little insight is expanding my mind and I really care - when she is telling me about it I think of you and being Pop's carer when you are so young

Sending my best thoughts

Dec

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hello my mum @Owlunar

we are now thinking of selling our house block and going travelling , love to do the west coast of tassie and also travelling new zealand some time xx

how are you going today

I had my first covid19 jab today

ohhh sometimes we just dont know what to do , it is sooo hard

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Ha ha changing our minds all the time my mum @Owlunar

Think it is a bipolar 2 trait for my Mr shaz , poor darling

Hope you are feeling ok xx

Today I slept in Had breakfast and put on a load of washing And now gone back to bed

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Hi @Shaz51

Oh dear - poor Mr Shaz and uncertainty - of course all of life is uncertain - that's the only sure thing about life - but how much harder it is with anxiety. And how hard for you with your health issues and your caring for two other people who need you so badly

What to do? What to do?

Is there a time limit about deciding what to do with your land and your insurance money? It's a lovely thought to think about travelling - right now that's not certain either - you could go through all the mind-bending issues about building and sell if it doesn't work out and travel in the future.

Is it possible to travel with your mother so unwell? Questions. Questions.

Such a bother.

I want to travel too - and I am vaccinated - but I certainly don't want to get locked-down, locked-out, worse than that - 14 days quarantined or isolated. Worst of all - the virus. I am okay sitting this out at alone at home - I have read so many novels during this hiatus - I read most of the books I had and ordered more - I will remember this time as my great-novel-fest but also how itchy my feet have become wanting to get away - to see my grand-daughter in Queensland and then - to stay in Cairns and enjoy the tropical heat

Life has challenges and right now I am glad I am alone with mine - and they are few - you though - have the care of two people who are not really compliant -

You really are a champion Shaz

Dec

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awwww thank you for your message my mum @Owlunar

Is there a time limit about deciding what to do with your land and your insurance money? --- this is a very good point , no we have no time limit which is wonderful and because i own half of the house we are living in with my mum is great

travelling is way back on the back burner now

mr shaz wants to rebuid especial when we go to our block to mow

we have a decision which builder to pick and with everything that is going on the builders said it will be about 20 months when finished

soo looking after mum is first ,

thinking once things start mr shaz will be ok , it is the waiting he does not like

yes hope this will be all over for you soon and you are able to travel again xoxo

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