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Life can be a Pain

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

Dec

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@Historylover I hear you. I suspect the stock-standard 'CBT + mindfulness' approach that is fairly common is something that just won't cut it for... well most people here in fact. These approaches aren't worthless, but they aren't enough for a lot of folks (or they are downright inappropriate).

It seems you have also experienced first-hand the difference connection and community makes for individuals. I'm so glad that is something you are getting here in the forums as well. I really hear you when you are talking about how frustrating it is to have to educate professionals. Trauma-informed care needs to be the foundation of all MH work, not some niche specialisation. I wish I could offer more than this but... well I hope you find someone who matches your needs soon.

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Re 'CBT + mindfulness' - you're absolutely right.

Thank you for your well wishes and kindness @Jynx. I hope so too.

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Nice to hear from you, @Adge. Hope you are doing alright.

I'm having an early night. Goodnight,folks.

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Sleep well @Historylover 🙏

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I saw these both tonight and thought of you @Historylover for roses and the owl for you @Owlunar

❣️

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Thank you @Anastasia They are beautiful.

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hello and tender hugs my second Mum @Owlunar

are you ok xxx

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Here with you @Owlunar and sending you love and understanding

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Thanks @Zoe7

You are spot on -

I can write quickly and delete - I think it's time I moved on and I will miss everyone so much

Dec

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I'm not okay @Shaz51 - but I am safe

Thanks for your support

Dec

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