Life can be a Pain

Hi @outlander

The lazy-girl won't be back - in fact I doubt she will be working for the council much longer because she can't get regular shifts and told me she hoped that I would be - but no way will I have her back - I would rather not have the help - it was painful

I don't know how to give my best when I am not feeling well - I can't even really write what I am feeling so it is better to wait until I sort myself out - and I think I have today - or late yesterday - my bad memories tend to be seasonal

And I love the little hearts

I've got some more somewhere

Dec

hello @Owlunar @Shaz51

sorry i havent been back here much. I have been hiding over in just a couple of threads on carers side.

when i feel extra sensitive (good grief actually wrote extra sensible!) and vulnerable I retreat.

When you have chronic pain it is so hard to have energy to get up and do anything let alone feel lighthearted. Also you are having a grieving period and do you let yourself and tell yourself that it is ok?

I dont mean to push and sound as though I know everything. I just know that when I acknowledge that I am in grieving state if I let myself just be there for a while without thinking about anything else and just go with whatever comes, often heavy sobbing, it helps me. I dont know if you are a candle person, or a water person, or healing stones, or whatever you relate to if anything at all. I am just thinking that if you allow yourself a period of time just for that, only need be as short or long as you are able to cope with. that will give some relief to your chronic pain.

I talked about chronic pain with my physiotherapist today. I am a strong believer of the intertwining connection between mind and body. He showed me all of the different posters on his walls, each referring to chronic pain demonstrated differently. It makes so much sense.

Of course what you are already doing, venting on here ( and you are not allowed to say that you are griping) releasing how about that? this is part of letting go

shaz i am relieved that it is light flu as much as you dont want that. good that you keep talking to Mr Shaz about his actions and how he comes across and also asking him if he has any questions about you.

Just give me a hoy if you dont hear from me and i will pop on back to see how you both are

take care xxxxx

Hi @Former-Member

It sounds as if you have grief and chronic pain both as well - and do they ever bounce off each other

I can let myself grieve for a time - I might not even cry but I have learned to sit in the proverbial rain - and I have lots of things I am interested in so when I take time out there are things I might or might not do - but yes - good question about the candles and water

I was born under the moon - Cancer - a water sign - and my son was born under Jupiter - that's Sagittarius - and a fire sign - hence the conjunction of fire and water - really - those two signs can make for unusual relationships

In two or three nights the moon and Jupiter will be very close together and I hope it will be a clear night so I can see this - but I know it happens anyway - I am not really into astrology - more interested in the Solar System - but still I would not write anything off - because it seemed that my son and I were caught in a psychic night of some dimension - and it is sacred and terrible to remember - but I know very much at God was in charge of everything. I believe that as the moon approaches then passes Jupiter it will be tense - btw it happens every month - but this year is perhaps the first time I have thought of it. It's comforting somehow

Yes - my grief and my pain - part of normal life and I can rant

Lazy people supposed to work in my home - griping - that I can do without and will do without - the lazy-person I mean

Good words and well said Mohill

Dec

I am furious - I am steaming - I rarely get hostile but right now?????????

Ah yes - that lazy-person did not peg my washing on the line - she just drapped my sheets and pillow cases and shirts and tea towels over the line without any pegs - sheesh

It might have got windy - it often does - it happens - and I could have been out with all my washing around the courtyard or even outside on the common area of these units - I am as mad as a snake

Okay -calm down Dec - it's not the end of the world - in fact - a good rant helps

Dec

You are so right @outlander

This morning I woke up in a better frame of mind and decided I will send an official complaint to the council about this girl - but I will speak to my case worker first

I did speak to someone at my agency about her - but I am seeing today that if I had not brought my washing in last night the stiff breeze this morning would have had it all over the place

I love hearts - let's see what I can find today

❣ ❤ 💜 🖤🖤🖤

Dec

hello @Owlunar

You have every right to be angry

let it all out on here, vent and rant away

i agree an official complaint in writing, in fact you should be compensated with an extra session.

the person on their books, representing them as broken just about every rule she could.

She disrespected you, she invaded your space, she sat on your bed!!! now you find that she has draped washing on the line. regardless of wind or not, that washing will be so creased and create extra work for you. I am wondering if she is unwell. regardless she is employed by them and represents their company so they need to stand up, own the problem and make amends.

keep venting I want to see smoke coming out of your nostrils. xxxxxx

Hi @Former-Member

The steam stopped coming out of my ears last night - but I still feel invaded by this woman and I will be dealing with this on Monday - with a written complaint

If I can continue to rant - I asked her to do the ironing but I still had to get the ironing table out and that is not easy with crook shoulders - and even put water in the iron - this woman's helplessness shocked me

I asked her to wipe some surfaces - so painful for her - I had to wipe them myself anyway before I put my stuff back - aw - and back to the ironing

She wanted to know what else to do - and she was sitting looking down and I asked her if she was okay - I asked her to finish the ironing and she said she had - and while she was stuffing around draping my laundry I found she had not ironed all my clothes and in spite of the shoulders I ironed them myself as the iron was still warm

Then she moaned that there was not enough for her to do in 1.5 hours - and I told her that I could find something if she liked - there were some doors and doorframes that need wiping - I didn't feel the floors needed vacuuming - but she could vacuum if she liked

I have never been lazy in my life - I can't do many of these chores now because of my damaged shoulders and spinal pain - and if I could change anything I would not change my pain for laziness any day

Obviously I am still furious Mohill - but I do believe I have said enough

I will be more rational on Monday to deal with this formally

But thanks - and oh yeah - you could see the steam coming out of my nostrils - I think it was more than disrespectful to sit on someone else's bed - that is really bad

Dec

Good @Dec shes too lazy to be a cleaner.

I would come and clean for you @Owlunar, I am a cleaner, WOW I must overdo it in 1.5 hours, maybe I need to slow down a bit , ha ha wouldn`t my customers have a fit xx