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Life can be a Pain

DecadianSenior Contributor07 Feb 2017, 1:19 pm AEDT

Life can be a Pain

Hi @BlueBay@Zoe7@Former-Member@Faith-and-Hope@utopia@oceangirl@TAB@Shaz51@PeppiPatty

I know there are more people I could tag but maybe I will think them up as I go along - actually I already have

I think I need my own thread - mostly my problem is chronic pain syndrome - I damaged my spine with the sporting excesses of my youth - a long time ago now - and I managed to rearrange it when I fell of my pushbike in a wind storm nearly 22 years ago and that seems a long time ago now but there is nothing they can do except treat the pain - and I do have Section 8 medication and I see a pain specialist

And the pain has been worse lately and wears me down and I get fed up and very tired -

I have issues with my mother as well - and although she died 2 years ago I still have bad times now and again - she was abusive and as well as I know myself and her this can get to me at times - and this is another reason I opened my own thread

Then there is TS - my Toxic Sister - she was under my skin for a while but not at the moment

So yesterday I felt so bad when I went to see the doctor about my back pain - and my pain specialist has cut my medication back several times over the last few years and she has gone too far - and I started to tell my doctor - yes - I cope with the pain better since my mother died - but it's driving me crackers atm and so are the memories of my mother

So that's it for now - I have had trouble opening this thread for some reason but now I have - I will run my own story - I would like to think I don't need to but yes - I do

You are all such wonderful supportive people - you are my soft place to land - that is so true

And anyone I have missed I will tag as I go along

Lots of hugs everyone

Dec

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Unknown userMember07 Mar 2018, 3:41 pm AEDT

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@Owlunar, sorry ya having a rough time atm. Just do the best you can, that's enough! Hugzz 🙂

Thought these pictures might provide adgood distraction for you maybe. Hidden pictures. It never ceases to amaze me how one picture can say two different things in detail 🙂 @Faith-and-Hope would appreciate the work involved more than any of us. Hey, maybe we should have a 'hidden picture'thread?

How many bears can you see in this one?

Love this onei- just beautiful when you see it (tip your head to the left 🙂

Keep going, the Lord will in time restore you xox

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utopiaSenior Contributor07 Mar 2018, 5:58 pm AEDT

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@Owlunar. So good to hear you got to see your family in Tasmania. I'm sure it meant a lot to your uncle that you came to visit. He sounds like he is an important member of your family - of your life. Treasure those moments.
So sorry to hear about your knee. And can't believe it's the same knee. I think the brace idea would be really good for you. Help to ease and strengthen the knee a bit more than 2 bandages & should hopefully make your recovery quicker.
Yes it's important that you stay in your own home. Doesn't sound like you need round the clock care, at all.
And wil Living in Place - there are many different services who can assist you with what you need.
What book did you buy at the Airport?
I'm currently reading a book by Stan Grant. Such a well written and thought provoking book.
Hugs

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor10 Mar 2018, 2:06 pm AEDT

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Love those pictures @Former-Member Icecream, bears and that strange cross dresser in the field???

@OwlunarGlad your trip was good and you are home safely. Sorry about your knee, but good to hear that bandaging helped. It sounds as if the muscles just did not knit together properly after op.

I can understand you want to stay in your home for as long as possible. Cant your GP organise more in home care with a nursing service calling, cleaner and Meals on Wheels. My friend with diabetes had both for a long time before she went into the aged care home.

I am recycling pics that I love and they reminded me of @utopia and @Shaz51 as well. Who would have thought Apple was a bird after all!

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Shaz51Senior Contributor10 Mar 2018, 3:38 pm AEDT

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awwwww @Appleblossom how are you today

Hello @Owlunar, @Former-Member, @utopia

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utopiaSenior Contributor10 Mar 2018, 6:38 pm AEDT

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Lovely pictures @Appleblossom.
Hello @Shaz51 & @Owlunar

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Unknown userMember10 Mar 2018, 9:57 pm AEDT

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Yes thanks, glad you liked my pics. Validation is the oposite to Bullying. Dec, might have to talk with you in my dad's thread. Take care.

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor10 Mar 2018, 10:06 pm AEDT

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I have tried to validate many people, on & off forum, felt people demand from me, but still find it hard to give understanding to me, not sure what you mean @Former-Member

I am on a double prn day as I was looking at Crimes Act today sorting out things in my mind and started to list all the crimes against me. Pretty traumatised today, but it had to be done for my biological daughter and son instead of leaving it be a soupy mess. Molto delicato.

Hope you are all good considering, the state of the nation etc ...

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Unknown userMember11 Mar 2018, 5:05 am AEDT

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Don't mind me @Appleblossom, just being blatently ignored by another contributor, just spitting at it sideways.its not you, you're good . But sorry you had to revisit wrongs against you 😞

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AppleblossomSenior Contributor11 Mar 2018, 12:44 pm AEDT

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I was not sure what was going on. Sorry about that.

A lawyer asked me 6 months ago and I was not ready to do it comprehensively, then whilst researching legal stuff yesterday, it seemed the right thing to do. When I have finished it I will be able to email it to her. I will try and keep it a businesslike task level and try not sink deep into the feelings. I am glad I took the prn as it enabled me to have a good night of dinner and television with my son. If I had not had the pills he would have been worried by my agitation and anxiety.

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OwlunarSenior Contributor12 Mar 2018, 1:22 pm AEDT

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Hi @Appleblossom@Former-Member@utopia@Shaz51@outlander

I'm sorry I haven't been in - and I do thank everyone for your messages and all the pics - I will try and answer people individually -

I hate complaining - truly - but as the knee recovered I got a toothache - this is a rare event - I think I have chipped a piece out of a wisdom tooth and it reacts to heat and cold so this is a good thing - it means I don't have an abscess - (knock on wood)

I have a really sore place under my jaw below my tooth - wow - this has to happen on the Saturday of a long weekend - sorry guys - I rarely feel as self-centred as I did yesterday - but I sat and watched recorded movies and chewed on cloves - there are worse ways to pass the day and the taste of cloves is okay with me and it did help

In myself I am okay - I seem to cope with these things - take them in my stride - but there seem to have been a lot of things lately -

My therapist is great though - I saw her last week - she is very interested in my story - she asks questions that I have to think about for a while - and I seem to be giving satisfactory answers -

I remember so many years ago when my life was so dark and my way so lost - I marvel that I got through this and can now tell a therapist about things and feel okay about myself - oh yes - I did have people treat me badly and I do understand that and how hard it is

But I have said this often - to many people and in this forum too - we need to please ourselves at times - I don't mean by being selfish but rather in the case we need to put ourselves first because it's the right thing for us to do - after all - if we do things just to please other people there is a chance no one will be happy - but if we please ourselves under these circumstances - then at least one person is happy.

It's a hard lesson though - I am glad I learned it and that was a long time ago

Dec

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